Final,
The first few weeks i could not even be around him. Like you, he and I would sit out and smoke alot. I do miss it. i have had to find other ways to connect with him. Someone said find different hobbies, I disagree. Find something else you can do together(NO SMOKING ALLOWED) My hubby does not smoke in car with me, but his car stinks.
I had to make him pick one spot outside to smoke. All the buttrays were making me crazy. My hardest time during day is when he comes home. I stay at home with kids. We would go out and have a few while I was cooking. Then another after dinner. This was when we caught up and got a small break from kids. Even to this day if I am not prepared it is hard. Instead of craving I get irritable. So before he gets home I take a break and come here if I can. I make hot tea and drink it while I am fixen dinner. I make him stay in kitchen and talk to me there. After dinner I get busy cleaning or play with kids.
That first few weeks just stay clear if he is smoking. I had to have strong gum or mint even being around him. At night i found other thing to keep hands busy. Scrapbooks, cleaning out drawers, or journals. Now I can go out w/him, but I stand away. If even for a second I start thinking about smoking, or romantizing what he is doing. I go back inside. I have kept my reasons and bennifits branded in my mind and heart.
I must add the first few weeks were brutal. We fought like every other day. I did not relize that it would bother me so badly. The smell was horrible, the sight of asstrays turns my stomach. Not to mention all the time he spends out there away from me and kids. It seemed like he was smoking the ones i was not. I had to talk about, without naggin. He is gettin a little better now. Unfortantly there is no magic solution to not hating what is going on. So I just have to accept it, as long as he is being as supportive as a junkie can. I deal. I love the man but hate the smoke.
I really could go on and on about this. I am on Im most days. I am sure there are other tips that I could share. But this is your quit, believe in yourself. Reward yourself,and do whatever it takes to keep your quit. Oh yeah, one more thing. About 2weeks into my quit I went to see my parents. He stayed here. That was a nic
