Hi Audrey, I'm very sorry about your buddy.
I once read that this idea of 'something bad [i]could happen'[/i] is often 'too vague' for some 'want-to-be-quitters.' For example: If I could see into the future and went up to everyone who was going to die in an automobile accident and said 'you have to stop driving, it will kill you', they are not going to take any notice. It elicits that 'it won't happen to me' response. Sort of like seeing a smoker succumb to another illness elicits the 'See there! Smoking is not what hurt him' notion.
It's important at times like these to focus on the 'real reasons to stay quit' that you can actually see and feel.
-Cigarette smoke makes me, my car, and my home smell bad.
-It costs me thousands of dollars (euros or pounds) a year.
-It upsets people around me. Especially my children (family/friends)
-It makes me cough and feel unhealthy.
-I feel tired all the time.
-My circulation is poor, my feet are cold.
-My breath smells.
-My teeth are constantly getting stained.
You can probably think of better and more relevant reasons of your own. Once you've got the reasons you need to keep turning them over in your mind. This feeds them into your unconscious mind and begins the process of wanting to do something about it.
Perhaps smoking didn't cause the tumor, but we know smoking did nothing (not ONE GOOD thing) to help either. Stay stong, stay quit and keep your friends memory alive.
[color=blue][font=Tahoma]All the best~[/color]
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[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/20/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 534
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,769
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2670
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 52 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2
