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lol - yeah, k, a young man. The thing with it taking so much more time is something that I have difficulty getting my head around to as well! Some call it perfectionism - that notion of not being able to make it perfect right now, so not bothering to try at all. Some call it impatient. I don't know what it is, but it does certainly get me. I told one of my doctors that I felt I shouldn't be struggling with ym weight after quitting smoking because after quitting - I should be super woman! He said "Yeah, but you can't quit eating." When we quit, it was "Not One puff Ever!", but when we're dieting it's... "Well, if you'd like to cheat today, then go ahead... it's good for you." So, I guess the two aren't really much alike at all. lol though, I am noticing emotional triggers just like I had with quitting. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 544 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 40,800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $10,200.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29
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MM, Um, first I think the size of your oldest qualifies him as a "man" rather than a "boy" - maybe a "young man" but I don't know many 6'3" boys! ;p I wouldn't beat yourself up too badly about the almost-binge. One thing that I realized is that with smoking it is sort of all or nothing but with eating there is more grace built in. There has to be because we have to eat, we don't have to smoke. I was reading up on the "clean eating" and most people plan for cheat meals or even whole cheat days. Of course these people are generally working out consistently but complete deprivation just doesn't work. I've already got a breakfast burrito morning planned! Mmmmmm breakfast burritos :) The other thing too is that eating healtier and losing weight takes so much more time, I think, than not smoking. Maybe longer to see results I should say and I have to really get my head around that. I've been doing some reading up too and have been really surprised how much of a difference diet can make. Check out a site called sparkpeople too if you get a chance - good stuff, good recipes and good discussion boards. I also found out that changing my diet can help my hypothyroid. I was diagnosed last June and in a way it was a relief because it helped explained why I was just adding on the pounds month after month. When we start taking care of our bodies though, they really do start taking care of us! Keep on keepin on sister [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1255 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 25,100 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,647.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 97 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10
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Hey Martha, thanks for checking up on me. I had a bit of a slip (I binged - or tried really hard to - I couldn't find much binge worthy stuff in the pantry!) the day before yesterday and since then I am really really struggling to hold my resolve. I've spent this morning on the Worlds Healthiest Foods site reading up on how eating well can make me feel bettter and improve my health. I think that's helped a LOT! As far as the kids goes - i haven't had much of a long drawn out talk with them, but have instead made little comments here and there about diet and health. My oldest boy is 6'3" and weighs 265 pounds. People are always harrassing him about being heavy and in my mind he isn't heavy at all - Just a big boy. Well, i have scheduled him an appointment with the doctor to discuss his weight on Tuesday. This way we will know for sure. If he needs to loose a few, then the doctor can write him a note and he can go to weight watchers with me. If his weight is healthy, then he can just shrug off the dumb comments and we won't have to worry about it at all. GG getting off the cafeine! I'm not going to tacklethat one just yet - I've been adicted since I was a wee one. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 544 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 40,800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $10,200.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
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MistyMoonlight, How's it going? Are you still movin' and shakin'? Today was Day 4 of eating "clean" for me and it's been tough but I'm tougher ;) I'm doing a de-tox thing for 5-7 days that means none of the following: dairy, red meat, processed foods, sugar, starches, caffeine, or eggs. So, that leaves...fruits, veggies, nuts, beans, whole grains, and dirt. But only certified organic dirt. Only kidding. I do feel really good and am surprised that I don't need caffeine as it turns out. I used to be a huge caffeine junkie but since I quit smoking I've been drinking less and less. My next step is to get my rump moving more and I'm planning some non-food rewards for about a month from now to keep me going. Hope things are well with you, ciao! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1254 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 25,080 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,643.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 97 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17
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Hey Misty - that sounds exciting and you sound so excited you make me want to join. I won't, but your excitement makes me want to. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 132 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,960 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $772.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
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Hey Martha - i know that bald TV counselor! I spent my first day living my active life today. I got up, went to weight watchers, ran some errands, went to Sam's club for some healthy food and water bottles, got my son's hair cut, made a sales call for my business, went to the store and cooked butternut squash soup and salmon for supper. I've cleaned the kitchen, washed my face, brushed my teeth and taken my medications and just came here to see how things were going before spending a few quality minutes with hubby and going to bed! Wheew.. that was a lot. I've also got my stuff ready to go for the morning because i have to have fasting blood drawn and that really sucks (I've been putting it off for 3 months now and my next Dr. app. is on Monday! woops!) Then i'm having my other son's hair cut and running another errand. It feels good but gives me anxiety all at the same time. And the good news. I joined WW last month and then didn't follow the plan, and it seems I lost 2.8 pounds not doing it and over the holidays! LOL! There was another lady there that had joined 4 times now and keeps quitting and we decided that this time there was no quitting.. going until we're life members. And there was another lady there that had quit smoking and I am kicking myself for not saying the right things to her. She quit 6 months ago and told me that she misses her friend and was down about the weight she'd gained. I just said "Oh, yeah.. i mourned at first too, and I gained a lot." No... "You're old friend makes you smell bad" No.. "with friends like that, who needs enemies?" No.. "It's better to be fat and smell good" No.. "I go to the stop smoking center online for support and you could give that a try!" No.. I just didn't say anything, and I feel bad - she seems like she's on the verge of blowing her quit. :( There's a man there that is diabetic and lost 70 pounds and got off all of his medications. That was inspiring. The meeting leader lost 105 pounds, and she had pictures on a story board and boy was that ever inspiring too! The leader to other meeting in town has never been fat. Her mother talked her into going to learn that she could eat and still be thin because she's anoraxic! You know.. It showed in everything she did too. She believes in eating as few points as humanly possible and working out until your knees are shot and that came across in every single meeting. It drove me NUTS! I like this leader so much better! She and her husband took a vacation to jamaica that they had taken 4 years ago - The last time they went they watched things happening, sightsaw, and ate their way around. This time they went back to do the fun stuff because they can now. (he lost a lot of weight as well) Inspiring, huh? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 536 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 40,200 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $10,050.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 47 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17
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Members, Don't forget, as mentioned, the Healthy Weight Center is now up and running. Just like the SSC, it has a great program to help you reach your goals. Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator
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Huh, I don't think I even said what I really wanted to in that last post. My point originally was that you can be that person you used to be and if it is the weight that is the issue, you can face it one step at a time just like quitting happened one day at a time. Anyway, by staying quit for as long as you have, you've proven you can do the tough stuff. Let us know how we can help. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1245 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 24,900 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,602.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 97 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9
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Hi Misty, I'm working on being more honest with myself about my weight and how I got to where I am now. I heard something on a talk show today that really hit home and maybe it will help you also. And hey, if it was on a talk show it must be true, right? ;p A certain bald tv doctor told an overweight lady that she was overweight because she wanted to be. Ouch. He went on to say that she has designed her lifestyle to allow her to be overweight and that people who have healthy weights design their lives to support that decision too. He emphasized the importance of creating your environment to be healthy even when you don't feel like doing it. This was so striking to me because that is exactly right and it is exactly like quitting smoking. When I was ready to quit, I was ready and could clearly see my excuses for what they were. I'm not quite there yet in dealing with my weight. I'm still kind of toying with it and until I know I'm ready to dig deep and face this thing come what may I won't succeed. Anyway, I'm not saying that you are in the same boat but we never know what little shift in perspective may help someone else. Did you see the Healthy Weight Center - SSC's sister site - is up? Hmmm. They say timing is everything :) All the best, especially in talking with the kids. They just love you and want the best for you though they may not be able to articulate it. Take care [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1245 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 24,900 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,602.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 97 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
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WOW! This turned into a great discussion. Thanks so much for all the input! My daughters are at their dad's right now, and one of my boys (who normally lives at dad's) is here with me, my husband and the little guy (I have a lot of kids, so I try not to explain too much about them with others because it just confuses most folks!). I'm going to start planning my talk with my daughters about this right now. It's important to me that the verbiage be some that is empowering and not something that makes either of us the victim of anything. I hope that made sense. Now, my boy that's here seems to be very confused about the person I've [been behaving like (NOT AM!)], and he flat out said something about it the other day. It was embarrassing but certainly eye opening and I honestly do appreciate it. I was asking my husband to do something - I don't remember what it was, and my boy repeated my request to my husband when he didn't respond. Then he tacked on, "... I guess mom is on vacation right now." *Big eyes* Uhm - I guess I haven't really been getting up and doing much of anything for myself lately! YIKES! I've just been sitting and getting fat. Honestly.. what's up with that? That's not me (and it's not a direct result of quitting smoking). I'm a fighter, and a survivor, and a mover, and the one person that you always know you can depend on to do what she's supposed to do. I had a hard time lately with being a "quitter" - i was feeling sorry for myself and was thinking maybe it was a bad idea to quit smoking. I realized after some thought that I wasn't missing being a smoker, but was missing my old life... when things were simpler. Then over the last couple days I realized that it was never "simpler". I have 5 kids, an ex husband, a husband, diabetes, a disability, and financial problems. Just like I did 2 years ago. You know? What I'm missing is being that woman that was active and able and a fighter. Smoking isn't going to get me there. So - again... turning this ship around! ~Misty, whose had enough! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 533 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 39,975 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9,993.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 47 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30

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