or here's the one Rusty posted...lol Or here's another option (sorry I can't give credit, because I don't know who wrote this originally): Print this out and tape it around the house, pin it to your sweater, pass it out to your friends: ____ has just stopped smoking. What this means is that her body is being wracked and she's on an emotional rollercoaster. YOU can make a difference, YOU can help her ... here's some fabulous ideas HOW: Tell her what a great job she's doing and how proud you are of her. Tell her again. Tell her again. Tell her again. Even if she's done something to piss you off - ESPECIALLY when she's done something to piss you off, tell her again. If she gets short-tempered, the best response is invariably, "You're right, can I get you some cake?" If she's having a hard time and weepy, hug her, sit her in front of the TV, bring her some hot apple cider and say, "would you like some cake with that?" Understand that she is sorry. She's truly sorry for being short-tempered AND if we all want to get through this swimmingly just please understand that you are not enough. No matter how wonderful, kind, funny, generous, right, handsome, adorable, beautiful, supportive and perfect you are, right now it's not enough. If you simply embrace the notion that at times you represent evil incarnate, no matter how loving and perfect, we'll all get through this together. The best response to being evil incarnate is to say, "Honey, you are doing a really great job and I'm proud of you. Perhaps we should celebrate with some cake?" [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 240 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,600 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,632.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0

revel, Did you check on the other page of this thread? Just making sure you are familiar with this site ;) Anyway, here is lady cigevistor's original post: Date _____ Dear _____ , I am about to change my life for the better. I am going to quit smoking on _______. I just wanted to write this letter to you so you know what to expect for the next couple of weeks, since the process of withdrawal can be very challenging for me, and for those around me. (Most people do not realize it, but nicotine addiction is literally one of the hardest drugs to kick, even harder than heroin). Everyone reacts to the withdrawal symptoms differently, but in general, during the first two weeks (Hell Week and Heck Week), don't expect much from me. I will most likely not be my normal self. All of my attention will literally be taken up with fighting the physical and mental urges to smoke. I may cry, I may yell, I may ignore you. Worst of all, I may say very hurtful things to you, but I want you to know that this is the nicotine talking, not my heart. I WILL apologize afterwards, once the poison has left my body and my mind has cleared, but for the moment, please, PLEASE remember that I love you, and let it roll off your back. You need to know that when a smoker quits, the body and the mind will try almost anything to trick the user into taking another puff. I may rationalize that "now is not a good time". I may question the worth of my existence. I may talk about feeling a sense of emptiness and loss. My body may develop aches and pains. I may not be able to sleep. I may act like the pain I am experiencing is all your fault. But be aware that I am doing this for ME, not for you. In this one important way, I have to be selfish, so that I cannot give the nicotine a reason to put the blame on anyone else. So you must not feel responsible for my discomfort and depression. Even if you feel you can't stand to see me this way, whatever you do, do NOT tell me it's OK to smoke, just to stop the pain. You have to be strong when I am weak, so do not agree with any "junkie thinking" I may come up with. Here are 10 things you CAN do to help: 1� Be there when I need a hug, but don't be hurt when I push you away. 2� If I tell you to leave me alone, give me space, but don't go too far...I need to know you are near no matter what the nicotine says. 3� Don't try to argue with me when I start to rationalize...silence is a more powerful message. 4� Avoid the topic of cigarettes (because I'm trying to get them off my mind), unless I bring it up first. 5� Do the best you can to act as if everything is normal. The more "normal" you act, the faster I will get there. 6� Consciously avoid putting me into situations where I will be in the presence of smokers. This may mean avoiding favorite restaurants or bars, or hanging out with certain friends for awhile. 7� Consciously avoid letting me get into stressful situations...if something stressful can be put off for a couple of weeks, please try to do so. If not, please try to cushion me. 8. Help me avoid "trigger" situations...places or activities where I usually light up. (For example, don't plan long road trips for the next couple of weeks if I usually smoke in the car). 9. Just keep telling me it will get better, that the emptiness and pain will fade, that you love me, and that this effort is worth it. 10. Tell me I am strong. Tell me you are proud of me. But also, tell me you will be there no matter what I say or do. I just wanted to prepare you because the first two weeks are usually the worst, but be aware that it doesn't suddenly get better...it will be a gradual process. Also, please be aware that while I am doing this quit for me, you and those around me will benefit as well. I will be free from the shackles of needing to know where the closest cigarette store is. I will be free of the smell and stains. I will be free of an early death. And I will be free to spend more quality time with those I love and care about. Thank you in advance for helping me through this. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 240 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,600 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,632.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47

Does anybody still have this letter. I would of love to read it. But i see its gone. Could anybody repost it please ? Thank's in advance. Revel ( Mary) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]11/15/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 2 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 92 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $13.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46

thanks for hte bump guys!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]10/31/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 15 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 300 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $60.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6

Thanks again for the bump Alohakeia Brenna, Bilingual Support Specialist

somehow it disappeared again..just trying to make sure jacqui gets this... [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 238 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,520 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,618.40 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

here ya go jacqui [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 238 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,520 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,618.40 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32

for families and friends of new quitters [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 221 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,840 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,502.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 30 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9

bump for those who are feeling a bit cranky during the early days ;p [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 202 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,080 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,373.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 28 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50

What a great letter...thank you! I've printed it out. Dan