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Hey Hockeymom!!!

Welcome and huge congrats on your 77 smoke-free days!!! Major accomplishment!!!

Be sure to reward yourself daily and for achieving major milestones! The really do wonders for your morale and gets your endorphins flowing!

I'm so sorry to hear about the health issues that quitting may have caused, but it appears that you know that you desperately need to maintain your quit to heal yourself. Bravo for that realization! You are in a difficult situation with your husband still smoking and it's even harder when he is smoking in the house. My wife never smoked and out of consideration for her, I NEVER smoked in the house. While in the car I always cracked the window and made sure that the fresh air venting was on to help direct my smoke out the window. She must have REALLY loved me to put up with it all those years!

I would have a good heart to heart talk with your husband and let him know that you want your quit more than anything and let him know how hard it is for you when he smokes in the bath and in the car. Let him know that you would REALLY appreciate it if he would take it outside at night and be sure to crack those windows in the car! If he REALLY loves you, I'm sure he would understand and graciously do as you ask. Heck, have you let him know how much it bothers you ? I think communication is key on this issue!

Let us know how it goes! If it gets bad, log in and rant and rave and write and read! Do whatever you can to distract yourself and get through another day! There is another thread on here dealing with this subject. Try doing a search!

Have a great smoke-free weekend! Oh, reward time!!!

Jim

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Congratulations hockeymom on your 76 days! That is excellent!

I have no experienced advice on the spouse issue but I can suggest, as in all other cases, remove yourself from the arena of temptation as much as possible. He may think that you have gone off him so it's best to explain to him that you are only protecting your quit, which at this early stage is precious. If he supports your quit, I feel sure that he will understand. As for the driving and the bedroom, if he won't desist you will just have to tough it out! No-one said quitting is easy and these may the kind of situations where your resolve is fully tested. If you really want to quit, you will cope, and it will get easier - for sure!

Good Luck

Penitent

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I'm 76 days smoke free. I saw that when I logged in here today and was stunned. It's been that long already. Wow. My symptoms have been insane, for lack of better wording. My doctor agrees with me on that assessment, but so far I'm holding steady.

I had leg and feet swelling for the first 6 weeks. Then I went to a bit of a cough for about 2 weeks. Then the cravings hit. Yeah, they hit two months after I quit. For two days I felt like I would be willing to murder and dissect someone for just one puff. It was wickedly bad. I got through it though using the nicotine gum. I decided at the start to have it with me at all times just in case the craves popped up. It's better than a cig, imo.

I have gained some weight, but not as much as I did the last million times I've tried to quit. The longest time I quit was 6 months and three days. I went back because my mom died.

This time I'm bound to stick to it. but I have an issue: My husband. LOL I love him dearly, but he's a smoker. He has only made two half attempts to quit in our entire 16 years together. Because of him, I started smoking. I would have maybe one cigarette a year before hand. Then several years into the marriage, I just broke down and started heavily. Ugh. (I started May 2004 - just shy of ten years). So I want to stay free of it this time. But living with a smoker makes is brutal. He is working a lot right now, which helps me. When he is home, during the day he will go outside but at night or the middle of the night he'll get up and have one in the bathroom - which is in our bedroom. The smell alone wakes me up and I have to battle the cravings at that point.

How can I get him to be more supportive? OR what can *I* do myself when I find I want one while he is lighting up while I"m driving down the road or sleeping? I doubt I can get him to stop, but he is doing better to be more mindful of me. But at night and while driving... ugh.

Thanks for any help ya'll have.

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