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Guywithdog,
 
You have your goals figured out, it is clear to you, now dive in! We are always going to be here supporting you. By posting you are definitely helping others, and others will reach out to help you. Keep using the site as it can be very beneficial and helpful in achieving your goals.
 
 

Samantha, Health Educator
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hi all - i've read some of the previous posts and i can SO relate - i've been an alcoholic since i was popped out of the womb... i've gone through some sobriety - 1 yr. 2 yrs. lots of 3mths... now i can't get through a day... my life has become so complicated and yet smaller and smaller...
 
my goal is to quit drinking completely... clear up my problems... (all alcohol related)... at least at this point... and move forward...
 
i am filled with resentment, yet keep trying to see my own part - i want to break through the denial... anyways... i'm rambling - but glad to hear others in the same boat... baba

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My goals are simple. Stop drinking as soon as possible, which is tomorrow. Thanks for responding. It helps a lot to know that someone out there is supporting me. I hope to help other people, as I hope for them to help me. I'm really liking this site so far. Thanks a bunch.
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Welcome Guywithdog.
 
Thank you for your input.  I am glad you are planning on using the site.  Have you set any goals for yourself yet?
 
I look forward to reading more from you!
 
 

Ashley, Health Educator
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Hi, I'm Kevin. I really liked what Rick had to say. Kitten, you seem like a nice person. Don't let your drinking hold you back. And Ashley, great job doing what you do. I just want to speak in solidarity with Kitten. Alcoholism is an astonishenly surprising disease. I'm currently losing the battle, but hope to regain the struggle tomorrow.
 
I lost my father to alcoholism when I just turned 13. It was a combination of that and a back surgery gone wrong. I'm now dealing with my own alcoholism and wish to turn the corner. I'm living in Santiago, Chile and have moved here to try and change my life, but have realized that geographic cures are not possible. I'm encouraged by this website and intend to use it to help me defeat the disease once and for all. I hope to talk with everyone in the coming weeks.
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Hi Kitten,
 
First off I want to yell out "YOU ARE NOT ALONE", many of us have been where you are and I can tell you honestly that this horrible feeling you have now can be the point in your life you look back on with pride someday in the future. It can get better if you want it too!.
 
Most people that don't have a drinking problem think that it should be easy for us to quit. The truth is they just don't understand. We can't make that choice for any length of time "WITHOUT HELP". I can feel the fear and sense of overwhelming from your posts and it brings me back 3 plus years when I was new to sobriety. It was terrifying to face the life I always hid from without my only crutch. But then I learned some things that really helped.
 
1. I don't have to face this alone there are alot of people out there that want to help me and in turn get help themselves.
2. I don't have to quit drinking forever or for any variation of long term. I only have to make the concious decision to not drink for TODAY. Today is only a short time - I can do anything for a day. I'll worry about tomorrow tomorrow.
3. I learned that this alcohol problem is a disease, but one that can be arrested. There are many fatal diseases out there - but this doesn't have to be fatal if I choose to ask for and accept the help that is available.
4. Alcohol wasn't helping me with my problems or stress, it was hiding it temporarily. I can deal with my problems and stress by talking to others.
 
Hang in there! Just get through today. We can do tomorrow when it comes and we can do it together.
 
Rick
 

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LOL cats are great listeners
 
You will get so much more from life.  You deserve this job.  Try to think about all the things you will enjoy more fully now that you won't be drinking.
 
Be easy on yourself today, watch a movie, have a cup of tea, relax.  Your body is healing.  Try to feel good about what you have decided to do.  Yes it is going to be hard, but it is probably the most important fight you will have in your life.  Keep us updated on how you are doing!
 

Ashley, Health Educator
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I never really new my father, his whole life was about his drink - on the occasions i did see him it was always in a pub, my mum left him when i was small as she didnt think it was fair for me to be around that as a child and she didnt want me to end up the same way - quite ironic really. but you are right i am not going to allow myself to feel like this anymore and i am going to break this cycle - so what if I dont ever get to drink again, i will get to do so much more with my life and i actually might start enjoying myself a bit more - being an alcoholic (there i actually managed to say it) is a full time occupation, in two weeks i start a new job one that i really really want - i will just tell them that i dont drink.

thank you, you have really helped me - i was feeling pretty lonely, cats are great listeners but not so good at telling you what to do or what you need to hear :)

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First of all never apologize for creating posts.  That is what we are here for.
 
Addiction is a lot more complicated then just making a decision.  But that does not mean it can't be done. 
 
It is normal to feel scared, pathetic and down right awful but know that this is temporary.  This is the push you need to change.  Each time you cry each time you feel awful tell yourself this is the last time you are going to have to feel this way.  The last time you will allow yourself to feel this way. 
 
My heart broke when I read that your father died from alcoholism.  You have to stop the cycle.  You are right you deserve better than this, but you need to fight for it.  You are strong you just need to realize that you have everything you need within yourself.  Just believe in yourself, you can do this.  
 
We are right here for you. Keep fighting.
 

 

 
 
Ashley, Health Educator
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Thank you for this and the sleep response, its helpful.

I am at home on my own again tonight, basically i have been ill the last few days, im sure its alcohol related, although it does feel like more than that - but violent vomiting and yet again more lies, meant my partner has stayed away this evening as he doesnt want to catch my bug - i'm trying so hard to be strong, but i cant help but keep sobbing - i guess i realised that i cant go on like this, i dont want to be this person i am better than this - but Im so scarred, and i know that i can never ever have another drink again and that scares me to death as all i want to be is normal - but i know that what i am isnt normal its pathetic, and what is so stupid is that my father dies at 50 all because he drank too much, i dont want that to be me - and in less than 20 years if i keep this up, its going to be me in a box

sorry for rambling everyone, this is just  really very very hard - and i dont understand why it is, my boyfriend keeps telling me that its not difficult its just a decision, you decide to drink or not drink simple as that, only to me it doesnt feel that simple, it feels like an impossible task.

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