Hard to say, I worked in the bush for the same rate for years and all that changed was the rules. After I left there was a major shake up and wages went up fifty percent. Fifty percent, My God, but it was due with all the changes making it harder and production less. I miss the work, but few of the people. Life goes on besides I had fourteen years and the average life expectancy is ten. Some people I know never made the first year. Some left a family behind. I guess you could say all the changes happened after I left. Better and safer work conditions for sure. I wonder if they have as much fun as I did. We broke a few rules in my day and compensation was hard on those that got caught. But one thing we were was very careful. Trees don't care who they kill. I have the scars to show for it but more from my hobby farm.
As the Chinese say, "May you live in interesting times".
When Irene said we'll do coffee next week. She didn't mention a day or time, so I emailed her and asked if she wanted to meet on Wed. at 9:30 or was Friday better, because she suggested Friday in her last email. She said she has to work her schedule around conference calls, so that's a piece of the missing puzzle that makes sense. She said she'd know her schedule this Friday and would let me know when she could meet next week. So, if she's setting the day and time, I'm thinking that's a better possibility. But, as you, Don Johnson, Davit and my daughter all say, just go for yourself and if she shows up that's great and if she doesn't, you went for yourself in the first place. I'll bring my Kindle to read, just in case
Maybe it's like Don Johnson from Miami Vice said about disappointment -"expect nothing". Don't we set ourselves up by expecting anything.
Today, some former colleague stated that "all the changes" took place after I left work. I was insulted since I "expect" respect from people who have low self-esteem.
Aren't we looking for love in all the wrong places
Ironically, I'd just finished tellling him that I'd left work for caregiving reasons, and had to break off the conversation, and leave since my parent's name was called in the waiting room. I wished him good luck(hope I never see the guy again). I always have this delayed reaction though, since I'm reading so much into so much "...lookin' for love in all the wrong places...."
You and my daughter are both genius'!!! She said the exact same thing. So, I'm going to do what you both said. Thank you so much. I really needed a friend and I appreciate you more than you know :)
A lot of people have baggage they don't even know they carry. Remember apples and oranges. You can be an orange and deal with the apples if you want to, but you do it on your terms. I like hot chocolate so if someone wanted to meet I'd use it for a reason to have a hot chocolate. If they showed up then fine but to separate my being an orange from their being an apple the hot chocolate was the priority. This way it is win win. Yes there is still disappointment but if you have the time why not. You might meet someone else.
Social interactions can be painful if you take them too serious. This way you will get answers to base your decision on instead of wondering if you did the right thing. Make it a me first day, and everything else is just frosting.
I really don't know what to think. A quick recap of the facts regarding the coffee social I started: Irene said she would come and did not show up. I cancelled the group and went the following Wednesday, just in case, anyone showed up. Irene showed up and said she spilled gasoline on herself from a broken gas pump and had to leave, but wanted to meet on the first Wed. after the New Year. I showed up and Irene was a no show for the second time. Literally, 10 minutes ago, I received an email from her which said, "Happy new year. How about coffee on Friday at Panera 9:30." I told her I couldn't, because Purple Heart is coming to pick up my husband's donated car on Friday and would call an hour before arriving. I have to wait the whole day, because they never gave me a time frame on when they were coming. She replied back and said, "Ok next week then." I didn't reply, because I honestly don't know what to think. My trust level is zero. All I've learned from her behavior is her word is not good and she's inconsiderate by not having the common courtesy to at least cancel, so I don't waste my time at the coffee house waiting for someone to show up. She is unapologetic and just seems that by stating another day and time is all that is needed. She told me, last time, she was going to be out of town the rest of the month, so how is she available next week for coffee? She may be controlling by wanting to meet on the day and time she chooses. I just don't have a good feeling about it. I don't like being used or manipulated. Maybe it's just the way she is and I'm mind reading this whole thing. But, rude is rude, no matter what the excuse. I don't know what to do. I could show up next Wed. and have her not show again. I really don't want someone else wasting my time when I could be doing other things. Any thoughts?
