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Hi Jewel,

When we are able to break free of the rationalizing and denial that is when we can really make changes.
 
Thank you for sharing.
 
For quitters who are not that far along. How did you stop the rationalizing? What changed?
 

Ashley, Health Educator
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Hi Jewel and TS ! 
I too am a professional at rationality of binge/ constant drinking.  I have been thinking about your posts and some of the things I would think.....
We have friends that drink to being buzzed daily....that's not me
I don't drive
I'm not hurting anyone---so why do they care? (boy that's really not true)
I make it thru the day and do all I'm required to do---with work and kids
I'm more fun when I drink
It's not that much and it's wine so it's not that bad
I just need more sleep
It's pms I deserve to binge out

Stupid reasons all of them. When I look at it I laugh. We are so great at talking ourselves into it.  I certainly can talk myself into it. But when you look at alcohol as poison why would we want it ever? 
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Hi Jewel,

I was inspired by your post to do a little introspection myself. Only, I really hate labels like “Alcoholic” as I do not want to be defined by a condition or a behavior. I look at myself as having a maladaptive relationship with alcohol. We don’t get along so well so I try to keep my distance.

I also checked my eyes and skin for yellowing. I went further and checked my nail beds, eye lids, hair, tongue and mouth for any abnormalities. I would palpate my liver and pancreas to see if there was any tenderness. I didn’t avoid seeing a doctor in fact, I deliberately asked my physician to check my liver enzymes because I had become afraid of what I was doing to myself. Didn’t help though since they were normal so it essentially gave me the green light to keep doing what I was doing. I rationalized that I wasn’t drinking too much after all.

I have some friends that drink as much, if not more than I did so I again rationalized that “I” wasn’t that bad since “they” were worse than me. I would rationalize that since I didn’t have screaming headaches after a drunk and was able to go to work that I was ok. I even convinced myself that since I didn’t drink every day that my drinking wasn’t “that” bad.” Yup, it’s not that bad at all to drink at 6:00 a.m. and where blackouts were the norm lol.

You’re so right Jewel, totally insane how our minds will rationalize and justify our drinking. Staying stopped is very hard and I am a little apprehensive of the upcoming socializing inherent with this time of year. Fortunately, I can always come here to strengthen my resolve and that is exactly how I managed to make it this far AF.

Yes, I too was totally irrational!

TS

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When I chose to drink, I would rationalize. My brain went to places that seem illogical now. I wanted to share a few. I never admitted to myself I was an alcoholic. I told myself I was going to die one day whether it be alcohol related or not....so why stop? I would wake each morning and view myself in the mirror. Told myself my skin color appeared normal, not yellowish so my liver must be functioning fine. Is that crazy or what!? I avoided the doctor's office. I feared any lab work. I didn't want my secret out. Further, I didn't want to know if my labs were out of range. I pounded these thoughts in my head daily. I rationalized. Presently, I think about where my mind was months ago, and I just cant believe I embraced those thoughts and settled. I recall Dave848's comments........the longer we are AF, our minds become more clear. This is so true. I do reflect on my years of drinking. I can still smell the wine scent and margarita scent....in my mind. The other day, I was cleaning out my closet and found a few beers. I immediately opened each one and poured them down the drain. Yes, I smelled them. But I do reflect on my past......only cause I dont want to go back there. Not even for a brief visit! Several weeks ago, my spouse and I went out to eat. I ran into someone I knew so I was chatting while he took his seat. Once I got to our table, I saw he had a coke and I didn't have a beverage. When I ask him why, he explained he didn't know if I wanted a drink or not. Quickly I told him I'm not going back there. So I ordered a diet coke. For years, I would always order mixed drinks with extra shots. I was a creature of habit and 'need'.  In closing, I just wanted to share a few thoughts on my journey. Again, I cant believe my mind went in such places. It was only when I decided to take my life back, that I realized the strong hold alcohol had on me. Yes, I am an alcoholic. I can admit that now. Blessings to each of you! 

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