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Great suggestions confused, Do any other members have any advice? Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator
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Thanks for the response, Confused. I've got a couple off weeks of sick in which to think about this and investigate what my alternatives would be. My heart says just quit as I've stuck at it for 2 years now and rest and do some courses and creative stuff to heal but my head still thinks about the practical stuff such as money/career/stability. I don't have a partner or kids to worry about so that takes some pressure off. I tried getting another job. A good opportunity came up at the wrong time (that's life...) soon after I came off medication and was feeling pretty bad. I decided to go for it. I think my adrenaline kept me going as I interviewed well but as soon as it was over I started crashing badly, resulting in going back on meds. Luckily I didn't quite get offered the job as I get so so indecisive when depressed! A lesson in needing medication for at least a while longer and not taking on stressful new challenges I think.... I'll keep weighing it up..decisions aaaggh :8o:
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My experience, reggiecat, is that it gives me more time to be depressed. If you can allow yourself to put career management on hold for a bit, and regard your job as a stable source of income rather than something that is supposed to challenge and engage you -- just for a bit. Being under-utilized with a caring and supportive boss suggests that you may be able to put a fair amount of your energy into healing yourself. Another option is to move to another job rather than simply quit. Starting the job search while you're still working is a little more difficult, but may give you a better feel for your state of mind and readiness to present yourself confidently and positively to others. If you find that you're not ready, you still have Plan A to fall back on. Just my 2 cents -- everybody is different, and taking long-term disability could be the best thing for you. Good luck.
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Hey lovelybones, i hope everything worked out for you with getting time off. I've got the same dilemma. I'm officially on holiday until next week - i went to get some winter sun but came back early as was in a really bad way. I've been having major troubles since finishing coming off some meds in september and now. I took the odd day off in the autumn on flextime and then a few days off sick before Christmas when starting some new meds that made me incapable of working - really drowsy and depressed! The doc is going to sign me off for a couple of weeks while i see a specialist but I'm debating quitting and going on disability or at least medium/long term sick. problem with long term sick is i broke my ankle last February and took two months off (felt better - that's a good clue to take some time off i guess!) and so used up most of the full pay.. I agree with all the comments about office gossip and the stigma - I know I shouldn't care but it does get to me. I'm also worried that by doing this I mess up my career - it'll be on my record and while it's illegal to discriminate against depression as it would be any disability in practice th stigma is rife - 'he can't be trusted to work under pressure'/'he's going to be off on the sick lots' I should say that while there are some good people there - importantly including an understanding boss - and it allows me to live to a comfortable standardwas planned as a stepping stone to something else, I have little in common with the people there, it's never felt right and i'm underused as a resource. But it is something stable in my life and gives me money to live. I get stuck in the chicken and egg - am I depressed at work because I'm depressed or because the job makes me depressed. The only way to tell is to quit - could be a big gamble...what if I have more time on by hands to get depressed? aaaggh Anyone got any advice - I know it's my call but any thoughts?
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I have rehearsed the conversation with my manager a few times and I think that part will be ok once I get past the initial panic. I saw my psychologist yesterday and she agreed that I should take time off. I suggested 4-6 weeks and she said I was kidding myself and to take the maximum time allowed by my benefits (4-6 months). Felt good that someone finally takes me seriously. I'm going to be seeing her once a week. So I went to my doctor today because she has to be the one to sign off on the disability forms. She shut me down right off the bat saying that "time off is not a treatment plan". I tried to explain to her that I can't function on a day to day basis and have chosen counselling over medication but I don't think she got it. She wants a letter from my psychologist before approving the forms. I know quitting meds cold turkey is never recommended but when I almost started screaming at someone at work (not like me AT ALL) and then hated myself so much for it. I figured that taking the medication was more of a risk than stopping it. Unfortunately I couldn't get in to see my doctor right away. The withdrawals are awful but better than being so overcome with anxiety and self-hatred. I'm feeling a bit better today since I've decided to take time off and really commit to taking care of myself and not letting depression ruin the rest of my life.
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Hazel, You are correct. Many medications prescribed for depression can produce severe sometimes dangerous side effects when stopped abruptly. For this reason, it is highly recommended that any weaning off a medication be done in consultation with your physician. Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator
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I had the conversation with my boss and it was horrible and a relief all at the same time... He called me in to talk about my lack of performance and I started hyperventilating and crying .... he looked like I had just grown another head but once I told him I am in a major depression he suggested I take time off of work to get better. Horrible experience to be hauled in for poor performance (a first for me) but a relief because I was given "permission" of a sort to take time off... So I have been off for a couple of months... it is a long road ahead of me but at least I am on the right path now... Did you stop taking your meds "cold turkey"? ... these kinds of meds are designed to be "weaned" off from what I understand (I am sure the nurses can respond to this better). Does your Dr. know you stopped? Perhaps you need them .. there is no shame in needing medicine for a medical condition - which depression is ... I would talk to your Dr. Hang in there !
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Lovelybones, Why not go through what you'll say a few times before meeting with your boss? Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator
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Thanks so much to everyone for the support and input. I'm trying to work up the courage to talk to my manager and see what we can work out. I'm scared that I won't be able to get through the conversation without panicking and breaking down, but hey, if that's what happens then I guess she'll know I'm really telling the truth. I suppose it can't be any worse than everyone looking at me weird and wondering why I'm so "out of it" lately. Part of the problem is that I'm in the middle of an ugly court case with my ex and with another court date coming up next week, my anxiety is building. Had a meeting today regarding the court proceedings that made me realize how much of a drain the whole situation is on me (and my family - and how can I take care of my family if I can't take care of me?) Another part of the problem is that I quit my meds (they made me worse) and the withdrawals are awful. Trying to hide that at work is stressful too. Just tired of trying to hide everything from everyone and I'm sure that pretending to be ok is not going to help make me better. Wow, just realized that I'm shaking like a leaf just typing this, I can just imagine how nervous I'll be when I talk to my manager. But as they say, nothing worth doing is ever easy...
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I am in the same boat as you right now..... I have been off since the end of September and my Doc. doesn't intend for me to go back until I get better (probably feb or mar)..... I can't believe that I am off work for stress? ... I feel like a loser too .. I am a single mom of a 9 yr old boy and your comment about always being late for school applies to my son as well..... I am on my meds and they are becoming stabilized .... I am no longer slipping deeper into the dark hole .. I just have to figure out how to get out of it... I have found that therapy, rest and being kind to yourself helps... remember that at the end of the day .. your daughter will benefit from a healthier mom and you will deal with whatever comes your way at work when you go back .... My Grandma used to say "Don't borrow trouble..." and I believe her... when I am better able to go back I am certain that I will be the main topic of conversation ... but hey... they are paying me to do a job - not gossip so I just tend to ignore it (even though the people think that I am a ***** because of that ) ... Drop me a line if you want to chat some more .... Hang in there ... I am hanging on the branch right next to you ... and my hands are tired too!

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