Hi Vincenza,
I suggested contacting pain management clinics(no one in particular), but I'm not sure this was done. They have their own social circle, and I'm isolated as a caregiver with my parent. I also offered a book but I don't think I'm taken seriously, since their values revolve around their gated community and an illusion of success.
As a caregiver, too much is expected. What surprised me, and seems to be the case, is that the more I do, the less they want to do.
I need my space, and self-care, too. What I don't need is two armchair quarterbacks, who don't wish to use elbow grease.
I've just about finished reading the book "Why Not" which is about finding meaning in one's life.
I might read the book "They're Your Parents Too", and later do the module on relationships, since time is limited, and there are 35 days left in the year.
What's ironic is that we're both distancing ourselves from each other. No one wants to get caught in the spiral of caregiving that I'm in. Similarly, I'm exhausted and wish to pace myself and achieve the balance to be available, but not to get involved in others' issues.
Maybe some retail therapy on cybermonday will help
