When I needed home support I did refuse certain people, it is my home and my choice but I am certainly glad I don't need them anymore, even the good ones.
It would be nice if she asked being it is not her home..and No I don't think she should be talking on her phone while working in a clients home. The only time she should be on the phone is if it is her employer calling for some reason..I wouldn't expect her to bring cupcakes though..I used to work in home health care and we would not of been allowed to bring a client food because they might be on a special diet like a low sodium or low fat or they me be diabetic..I used to hate it when they would start answering their cell phone when they were a my home to help care for my husband..He had Ptsd and dementia and needed their complete attention..He had swallowing problems and also could wander out the door and get hit by a car..Being on the phone would but him at great risk..I fired a few so called home health care workers and decided that we were better off on our own..Now if she is just a housekeeper and thats all and does a good job you might want to keep her..but I would let her know that I do not want her using her phone while she is working unless it is her boss calling..You can call her office of employment and check and ask them if they made any calls to her while she was working in your home..and let them know the situation..and how you feel about it..You can then ask them to talk to her or ask that they sent somone else..
No the homemaker doesn't bring anything, and does it each time, including using the bathroom. It's just the principle of the thing, since she doesn't have the courtesy to ask. If she asked, she'd be welcome, of course.
A problem with rudes is the sense of entitlement society has today, since the cost of a flush or electrical charge is not the issue.
Hi Hugs: Oh boy, you've hit one of my pet peeves. Good manners are for everyone. As you write, it does help everything run smoothly. Everyone would know exactly what was expected of them and therefore would also help with the anxiety or stress in some situations. Take for example the simple handshake or the acknowledgement/greeting of another person. How many people are taught how to shake hands properly? also that ettiquette says that if it is an older woman, she has the first choice of offering her hand to a younger person. The younger person does not try and shake an older lady's hand first. Anyway, just blabbering here. A gracious host/hostess is a wonderful thing to see in action, in any setting, office included. They just seem to know what to do and say and are confident in their manner and speech. We need more of this. A lot of this is just plain respect for others and their property, feelings, etc. it's not all etched in stone, it is to make the other feel at ease.
I would do as Samantha suggests, be proud of how you were brought up and show by example. I've been called a snob before and it really hurt. I'm not a snob, I know I am not one, I have good manners though and am proud of them. My parents always instilled in us the idea that we were respresenting our family and country when travelling abroad. You can be dirt poor, but you can still be clean and presentable and have good manners. That is what we were taught, wash your hands and face and comb your hair, brush your teeth and be ready to face the world. lol
Hope you have a good time if you decide to go and don't forget, you can leave on your own timetable when you've had enough.
Simple, I usually just don't go. Here if you hire some one for a day you are expected to feed them lunch and supper. It kind of dictates who you hire. No nose pickers please. In restaurants I just stick to my side of the table. Hard to ignore what is happening around you though. I guess it is just a matter of how much you will tolerate to socialize.
I've become squeamish with time, and finally had to draw the line at a social situation. I'm going to be invited to a birthday party, and usually avoid these situations, since the family has no manners.
I wonder how others deal with the lack of respect for basic manners when eating out? I thought etiquette had to do with making others feel at ease? Even though my parents were raised in poor households, the message of respect and hygiene was shared, but some people seem oblivious to this message.
