There was sexual abuse going on in my household, I learned, as my mother lay dieing; many things came out. I had often wondered and still wonder if my father had abused me also as my sister and my brother claimed they had been abused in various ways. I had seen my father chase my sister into the bathroom, the only room she could go to for protection and lock the door. It terrified me. I am still afraid of men and I am 47 years old. I often wonder if I was also abused but have forgotten it. How did you start to remember what had happened to you?
You poor thing. It is sooo sad the mental grief you must be going through, I think by definetly talking about the episode that happened to you when you were a little girl will make you a stronger person look at how far you have already came! By supressiong your emotions, feelings and thoughts gets you absolutley no where, you have a voice use it! Your partner should come along to your counselling meetings so he can get a better understanding of what you are going through because your a valcano right now erupting! You can only keep something like this down for so long. Im suprised you have came this far,you are a strong women.Try writing it down you have to get it out you'll get there girl. thinking of you meg xx let me no how you are going :(
lost57
i lost a child years ago. we went through very intense therapy and now appear to have overcome our grief...my wife and I. while in groups several people where involved who had not dealt with loses from many years ago and they were now attempting to deal with their grief.
i don't know anything about therapy for rape, but i think you have to deal with your feelings in a very concerted way. attend a number of support groups...journalize...write poety...talk to close friends etc...
perhaps its important to forgive your assailant and yourself, if you feel guilty in any way...write a letters to your assailant perhaps. you don't have to mail them.
there must be a variety of opinion on how to deal with your problem...your counsellor's approach does not appear to adequately fill your needs. do some research....I would think that there's material on the internet and also i think there are many womens groups who can offer ideas and support.
does your husband go to groups or counselling with you...perhaps you might work on some things together.
Also i think lots of exercise and activities which might absorb you, such as photography may help you.
I hope my input isn't too off-base, as i don't know much about the subject of rape...i'm simply relating it to grief therapy.
i wish you well
bob
[color=Red]Text[/color] :mad:I was raped 32 years ago and in the last 4 months I have had it all come back. I kind of pushed it to the back of my mind but something triggered it and now I'm on medication and going to counselling. I was 15 and a virgin when it happened. Not sure how long it will take me to get better. There are days when all I do is cry. This has effected my 9 year relationgship with a great man who loves me to death. We have been fighting and even thought of splitting up. I don't want this to ruin us. Does anyone have any advise for me.
