Diva, Making choices means deciding you want to save your relationship and seeing those subtle changes in him as well as the big ones - he's willling to go to therapy.....well, those are factors in making your decisions. I hope that my saying "making choices" didn't imply only negative choices. I just know how important it is to not sacrafice the things that mean so much to us. I am glad things are on the upswing with you and I'm impressed. I've never maintained a relationship with anyone for more than 6 years. I have lifelong friends but not boyfriends, husbands, etc. So, my hat's off to you and others who figure out how to do it!!!!!! Are willing to do what it takes!!!!!!! My typing is a bit off, hope you can translate and decipher, I'm a bit lazy to go backand fix it all.