Hi blue-eyes and welcome to the support group. I'm glad you've come here.
It sounds as if you are an amazingly strong woman, as well as very compassionate and caring. I also can see where someone could become frustrated with the situation that you are in. You didn't mention if you are in therapy or if your family is in therapy. In my opinion, when a child is having so many issues (undoubtedly through no fault of her own) that the family could benefit from therapy. You seem to be her primary caretaker and that is a lot of responsibility as you very well know.
I think this program can help you in many ways. I think the sessions are good. I recommend you start at the beginning of the sessions. But also there are some sessions at the bottom that are "extra" that maybe you could benefit from now. I know this program has helped me with my depression but also through frustrations with which I personally have to cope.
I hope you find the same benefits from the program. I know posting alot about even the smallest thing to the biggest thing will get you some feedback and opinions to consider with your situation.
I look forward to more posts from you blue-eyes. It sounds as if you are committed to helping your step-daughter and maintaining a relationship with your husband, that's great!!!! I think you'll find the help and support you need here.
Welcome to our online support community, thank you for introducing yourself and sharing a bit about yourself with us. It sounds like you are dealing with some difficult situations, you have come to a great place to receive support and encouragement. Work through the sessions of our online program. Read through the forums, post often and know that we are here to support and listen.
Members, what words of advice to you have for working through the program.
This is my first post. I'm a step-mom to a 10 year old and a bio-mom to a 2 year old. My depression began when my step-daughter was sexually abused. She always been a difficult child because her mother "gave her away", this abandonment in SD eyes is very upsetting and she, according to her therapist, takes it out on me. I was able to handle SD behaviour up until her abused happened. She was 8. She became extremely disobediant, gained alot of weight, and now pee's in her pants at least once a day. I'm tired. I'm tired of being treated so badly when I have done nothing wrong. I try very hard to help SD heal from her abuse and her abandonment issues. I go with her to her therapy once a week. BUT I feel like a give 150% and still I get treated like garbage from her. I protect her from ridicule when she has an accident in public. I do laundry everyday to wash the clothes she's soiled. I do fun things with her. I'm sad that it happened to her. I'm angry that no one will help us financially with lawyer's costs to protect her from further harm. I'm tired of her negativity towards me. I feel trapped. My husband is great. He is the man of my dreams. He supports me and loves me, but he cannot change her. I have a daughter with my husband. I can't leave the man of my dreams and deprive my daughter of a wonderful Dad. If I leave SD will be abandoned again. How can I do that to a child who is already hurting so badly? But how can I go on in this situation?
