Mistymoon, Just a question or a thought. How old is this woman your son would go see and is she single? Misty dont worry about all the talk, forget them you have to do what is right with your family no matter what. (Gonnadoit that is the funnyest thing I have heard..........LOL)

Hey Misty, I had no idea things were getting so bad with your oldest.. I know you had said he was spending time with a friend who smoked but I had no idea about this woman... I would have any issues about my child being in an adults house without me being there no matter how well I knew this person... I too have banned my family from visiting smokers... My partner and I have been invited to dinner at a smokers house but have cried off for 2 reasons, 1 to protect my quit and 2 cause the smell is just awful!!! LOL I would suspect that perhaps this is just your oldest being a teenager... Or perhaps he is jealous that you spend so much time with the girls and not him.. I remember being a teenager (not that long ago *cough*) and what it was like to be 16 thinking I was an adult but still being treated like a child... Never an easy thing to deal with. Sit him down and talk to him would be my advice. Ask him if he would rather that you were still a smoker and unable to do many of the things that you can do now.. Ask him if he would like you to be alive for the important days in his live like his graduation or his wedding day.. He'll soon wise up. Hope you guys work it out soon.. If all else fails send the hubby in to talk to him "man to man". Krissie

... of course, later then my son went down to the post office where my mom works and my brother was there. Tonight when I called my brother about soemthing, he knew about things that i had said to my son and to my mother, and now I want to cry again because they were all sitting around having a nice gossip session about the crazy things Peggy is doing now. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,477 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $585 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2

Today i spoke to my son and explained to him that he would have been in trouble and I ould have bene angry when he did the things he did - whether I had quit or not, and that it isn't fair of him to blame my quyit for his bad behavior. Then i spkke to my mother and told her that she and my son both could have a little sympathy because I am doing the bravest, hardest, most wonderful and frightening and painful thing that i've ever done in my life. I told her that the next time my son comes to her whining, that she could find out what he has done wrong, and she could remind him that this is no cake walk for me either. I also made it perfectly clear that this is what it means to be "supportive" of a quitter, and that her words hurt my feelings the other day. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,477 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $585 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 44

Douglasa - she is older and married. Her husband and she were the only two people to come to my wedding.. family freinds. And now I feel guilty about it all because she is in the hospital for congestive heart failure! OMG! Nope Danielle - I would have smoked, and i would have been very angry and probably not spoken to my mom for a couple of weeks. That is not a healthy relationship btween she and I, but I feel like It is getting better. Free - you are right, I do need to get rid of the stinkin thinkin. I think that sometimes I look for a reason to feel bad. LOL [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,532 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $598 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47

lol gonna.. Well, let me tell you something. THAT is why i have made the rule that nobody is to go to the home or ride in the car of any smoker. Because momma's nose knows. They have come home stinking like smoke several times since the quit, and when i ask "Why do you smell like smoke!!?" they say "I just rode over here with Karen!" I explained to them last night that they are not to go into the home or car of any smoker ever again and this is a big house rule, and that if they come home smelling like smoke ever again, there will be no excuses. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 43 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,402 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $559 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18

Well, i just went and got my girls from school, and I didn't even walk through the door of the house, when my son hands me the phone and it is the woman that I mentioned above. She was screeming that I was spreading aorund town that she was a pot smoker, and my kids can't hang out with her anymore because she smokes pot. Then she hung up. i called her back and she screamed agian and hung up. I called back and her sister answered and told me what was being said, and I told her what the truth was - that my kids can't go into the home of any smoker, and that pot had nothing to do with it, and i never ever mentioned it, and that i recently quit smoking so they are not allowed to go where they are going to come hoem stinking like cigarettes, because I can't tell if they are smoking or they are smelling like someone else. Then there was no response, so I hung up. He's really laying it on thick, and causing all sorts of trouble for me/himself. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,356 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $546 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

Oh, and I just spent the entire weekeend making sure he had a great birthday too. He had a freind over for 2 nights that was really something and very anoying about it, and I suspected he was a smoker too.. and I never said a word, and I just made him a very nice and hospitibal place for his birthday and took them out, and got him pressents, and this is how he behaves the next day? He's really trying to set me up so that he has a darn good reason to run off again so that he can get his nicotine fix from somewhere.

Well, that's it isn't it? He's using my quit to justify bad behavior. He's also using it to excuse going and spending a lot of time at smoker's homes, and I can't shake the feeling that is junky behavior. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,363 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $546 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51

I'm going to have to start this rant by admitting to all of you that i was a 3 pack a day smoker.. indoors, and while pregnant, and while in the car. My children smoked jsut as much as I did.. and factor in that their biological father smokes as well,a nd they've had a double does their entire life. The day that i quit, my oldest boy (who turned 16 this weekend) left the house without doing his choors, and i was all complaining to myself as I did his stuff. When he got home, I told him off and grounded him for a day. The next day came and he left the house without permission and without doing his chores. Guess where he went? To a smoking lady's house. Now, we used to be friend's with this woman, but she did something that wasn't very nice, and though the friendship wasn't "over", it had slipped back to a "hi! how ya doing!!" kind of thing, and not a "come on over for dinner!!" thing that it was before. She had tons of video games and gorry type movies that teanage boys like, and my boys used to go over there quite often. Well, they had drifted away as well - citing that her house was realy filthy and one of them sat down to play a game only to find he had sat in cat crap. Well, i quit smoking, and my son gets himself in trouble, cites that he is only in trouble because I quit smoking, and is hanging out with this smoking woman. I'm not stupid.. let's all just get a grip on what's happening here.. My son is adicted to nicotine and he is going to her filthy house, and blaming me for it, so that he can get a fix. He is just one little step away from lighting up himself. Today he disobeyed me again, and left the house while he was grouned.. thsi time to go tell my mother how unfairly I am treeting him since I quit smoking and that he doesn't like smoke, and would never ever smoke - he promisses, but mom is being so unfair. My mother is so d*m* DUMB that she didn't see this for the junky speek that it is, and called me up to tell me that I am loosing my son and that I need to quit keeping him from hanging out at that woman's house!! WTF!!?? She said that i ahve to quit yelling at him, too! I said "He needs to follwo the rules then!!" I got so flustered that i hung up and I called her back later, and very calmly explained t