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Marie - You are one of the most supportive, caring people I know so I have total faith that you will deal with this is your usual special way that you always do. Even as a non-smoker, the negative comments and criticizm that I received when I smoked still smarts. I give those people absolutely NO credit for my quit. In fact, they made me dig my heals in harder and because they chipped away at my self-esteem and generally made me feel awful about myself, they helped to helped to ensure that I would run for my best buddy - Nicodemon. I have also had many friends who in the process of sharing our lives, telling each other our ups and downs have inquired about whether I had stopped quitting. Their gentle reminders coupled with their constant caring and friendship and the fact that I knew that they valued me warts and all...did encourage me to quit. If the topic came up, It inspired me to hear others say that they knew I could do it when the time was right for me. You are so much better with words than me...but I expect there will be moments for gentle encouragement while you let your friends know how very important they are to you. And most of all, you are a SHINING example of the perfet "quitter". Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 36 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 739 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $180 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
for 18 år siden 0 3908 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Marie i have this issue with some of my family and friends. The short answer is that unless they are ready to quit they wont as you and I both know. They have to make their own way in life and you have to accept it. I have tried the 'Bet you couldnt do it' tack but it just comes back'Could if I wanted to' To be honest I feel so awful at the moment that I am not sure I could reccomend it to my worst enemy!! I have emailed threads about people dying but no response. Lets focus on helping those who are trying already(including ourselves) that will keep us busy enough Luv Phil xx [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/9/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,382 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �362.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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NO ONE smokes in my car now.... Let her wait Phil [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/9/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,384 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �362.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
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Marie, First of all, you're completely normal. The stench is hard to stand after we quit because all of our senses are so hightened due to quitting. So yes, it's gonna stink. But I've learned that if you want to KEEP your friends, then don't push them to quit. If they bring the subject up, then you can speak honestly about your experiences, but if they don't, then they're probably not ready. If somebody would talk to you about quitting, even in a non-harrassing way, when you weren't ready, how did YOU respond? I had a pre-made excuse for every single arguement that somebody could possibly make to me. I was the best at those retorts. So I know that there was absolutely NO way that I was gonna quit until I was absolutely, positively ready on MY terms... and either will your friends. Support them, love them and be there for them to share your experiences and give your knowledge that you've gained from quitting when they ask... and then leave the rest to them. That's sometimes the hardest thing to do (trust me! I know! There've been MANY smokers that I've wanted to "save" from their addictions... but I know I can't), but it's what needs to be done in order to keep your friends and not cause hostility or resentment. Good luck! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 354 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,859 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1462.02 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
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Marie, Please don't think that we are all harping on you about this. Your last post sounded kinda defensive... I think the responses here are coming from the fact that we have ALL been there at one time or another with at least one smoker we know... I know that I have written many posts very similar to this one, and got pretty much the same exact answers as you. Through experience with walking the line, I have learned that I also cannot really mention my quitting much for fear that people will think that I'm being "preachy" even if I'm not. I have a friend right now who has mentioned quitting several times and yet, I still try to not talk too much about my quit because I don't want him to feel as though I'm bragging that I've quit or that I am preaching to him about it. Chin up, k? We all love you! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 354 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,865 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1462.02 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
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[IMG]http://i104.photobucket.com/albums/m180/princessceleste_2006/Misc/9.gif[/IMG] It really bothered me when friends and family would complain about my smoking. I was really embarrased about my habit and i really was a very considerate smoker... or so i thought. I knew i smelled, but i didnt realize how bad.... As you know Marie, your friends will quit when its time. I quit at the perfect time for me, you quit at the perfect time for you :) Hope you have a great day PrincessC :) x [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 98 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,967 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $999.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 54 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
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This sure is great, now how do I get my friends to quit without hassling them? I just can't stand the smell even though I love them dearly, the smoking couple stinks so much. I feel like spraying them with lavender as soon as I lay eyes on them LOL. When we went on our tour of New-York by bus, there were 54 of us on the bus 7 smokers and 47 non-smokers, guess what? the bus stank as soon as they hopped in and sat behind us. Now I used to stink like that also. I'm telling myself I should be more conciliating but I just can't stand it. Is this the part of me that's looking to find fault? Is this the part of me that wants to be radical as in: if I don't smoke, you don't smoke, or is because I have programmed my mind against smoking and will become or am becoming one of THOSE ex-smokers. I don't know just yet, can you help me on this one ? Opinions and suggestions will be welcome. Marie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 126 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,890 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $504 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42
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BUT N2K, ;)I am understanding and I don't preach, I just grin and bare it. I'm just tired ,it's late, I know there's no answer for this one, I will just have to wait it out, they will have to quit eventually I guess. So thanks for answering my post. Stupid cigarette companies and their cheating ways etc etc wish their crops would rot on the ground and the rats eat it all and run around the city dizzy and disoriented so the rat catchers can get them etc etc. Good night all [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 126 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,891 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $504 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10
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Ok I think I am becoming a non-smoking activist, I can't stand to be around it. I will keep my friends no matter what, that's never been an option, we've been friends for 30 years. Thank you for answering this post, that I shouldn't have written anyway as I knew there was not right answer for it. On with the quit one day at a time :)Marie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 126 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,897 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $504 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
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thanks Josie ,all of the advise has been good and right to the point, I appreciate it, I just hope I haven't gotten cocky in my short journey, because I know the stupid addiction is lurking around the corner.I didn't think I had, but I now realize in wanting to protect myself I have hurt others that I love dearly, now I have to fix it, I've been having an off day today, it's rainy and cold and I have the blahs plus I work tonight and I don't feel like it . blah blah blah [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 126 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,899 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $504 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

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