This is a perfect example of a good discussion - both sides stating their beliefs without any harsh criticism or negative comments! Now granted, from what I have read, there have been some remarks deleted, but it is apparent that, with the exception of a select few, members from BOTH sides of the fence CAN debate in a friendly and non-judgemental manner. I promise to do my part to make sure that my comments in the future remain without negativity and unnecessary criticism. I do not make a habit of posting negative comments, however if I, or any of my friends are personally attacked, I will respond honestly for I do not like bullying or meanness and will not tolerate it. In my opinion, ALL debates should be fair, honest and without meanness or snide, underhanded comments. I like to think of this place as a safe haven for all quit experiences. I would like to think that those who are having a difficult time and post about it will not be met with hostile comments saying that they are being "dramatic" or "selfish" when they are suffering, even if they are later in their quits. Likewise, I think that people who have had easier quits SHOULD share their knowledge and wisdom and quit experiences in a non-judgemental way. Sharing the freedom of the quit is important for all quiters to realize, as long as it is done in kindness and not rubbing it in that the quit was easier for them than others. We all know that there are two sides to every coin - there are the easier quits and the harder quits. They should both be acknoweledged and represented. CobenFan, you wrote "I am lucky of a relatively painless quit I'm proud of the REAL person I am." I think you should be proud! 200 days is a wonderful achievement and to say that you have a not-so-difficult quit is a blessing you should be very grateful of... not everyone is as fortunate. I am sure that you worked hard for your quit, and were blessed with an easy one. I hope that you and others can be a positive example of how to have an easy quit - not just saying THAT you have had it easy, but by living as a positive example to others and sharing the wisdom that you have that has aided you to have an easier quit. You have done well and should be proud. 4my2girls, I think you made a very good point. You

Hi all, In my opnion there are three kinds of people, the ones with an easy quit and the ones with a difficult quit, and the ones who can not decide wheather the quit is hard or easy. I myself has a very easy quit, and my daughter who quit on the same day as I did had a difficult quit. I THOUGHT it was an easy thing to do and my daughter THOUGHT it was hard. That is the difference between people. Not everyone thinks the same way. It seems to me that people who have an easy quit have to defend themself for that. It's never up to someone to know how other people think. The reason I tell people that my quit was easy is only for the reason that new quitters can see that there are some people who's quit is not hard. Maybe they start to think about the different ways of quitting. Knowledge is power and for the rest I agree with Mr. Ed all the way. We are not God. So instead of talking about what is an easy quit and what is a hard quit we all should do what we are here for on this webside: To help and support people to quit smoking and have some fun. There is more then enough s*** in the world as it is allready. Thank you. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 193 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,840 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �569.35 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 26 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57

I can honestly admit I have had the toughest time with my quit (and the majority of the old-timers know this also). But I also know I'm still quit because of all the people here. I dont come here as often as I should, but I also know there are people here that I would consider dear and honest friends to me (ie Lady is one of them, among many others here). She has held me accountable every single step of my quit. I do know when I made a promise to myself, I promised i would do this for me and no one else. Started out the wrong promise but as I grew through my quit, I knew I couldn't do it for my kids but only for myself. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 126 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,164 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $510.3 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51

Duffis, I quit on patches and have found quitting relatively easy. I have had some bad moments, minutes, but no more. As far as I recollect, I haven't posted about them - no I'm not claiming that this is good - it's just the way I have dealt with things. This site should be a broad church; there is room for debate or even argument, but opinions should be respected. Nobody's opinion on the quit is the truth - none of us is God. And nobody here has the right to be offensive - whatever we believe. (just my opinion) Mr Ed [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 240 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,218 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1800 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 40 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41

[quote] be sure you know what you posted when you first began your quit at the SSC your words can come back and expose the real person you are. [/quote] Still the same person I was when I arrived. In my 200 days, I have not received one post of support from you Duffis, and that's fine. It's because I did not post asking for help, my quit IS mine and nobody can say that I complained about a thing. I am lucky of a relatively painless quit I'm proud of the REAL person I am. CobenFan [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 200 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,409 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $700 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22

Duffis, There are those of us who have had an easy quit. Does it mean that we have never had a day where we struggled? No. It does mean that the majority of our days have been easier than others. And it is very important that a newbie know BOTH sides of a quit. Being prepared also involves realizing that you can make it harder or easier on yourself. It does not mean that this is a breeze. It has NEVER been stated as that. You have the power to let this addiction take over you, or not. That is where the difference of an 'easy' or 'difficult' quit comes into play. It is all how you react. The only time that throws this off is when a medical condition comes into play. You can fight it, or embrace it. The choice is ultimately up to ourselves. I am here to support others. It gets annoying when people put in nasty comments and hateful words. This is not the place to do that. Please, keep all of that junk out of here. It gets distracting and turns our thoughts away from helping others. 4my2girls [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 220 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,616 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $719.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5

[quote] So instead of talking about what is an easy quit and what is a hard quit we all should do what we are here for on this webside: To help and support people to quit smoking and have some fun. There is more then enough s*** in the world as it is allready. [/quote] Dutch Fini ~ well said... Life's too short ~ As a good friend of mine says - time to move on ... ~ Healer [url=[IMG]http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g31/healerwithin/smile27.gif[/IMG]][IMG]http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g31/healerwithin/smile27.gif[/IMG][/url] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 220 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,720 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1023 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 28 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24

O.K. so I said I had an easy quit but there was that one day when I lost my car in a parking garage and I was looking all over the ground for a butt. Never found one and since I didn't have a lighter in my purse or in the car(which I finally found) couldn't have smoked one. Supposed to get rid of all cigs when quitting but I still have a carton sitting in the rafters of garage..too cheap to throw away but don't know why I keep it. judy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 220 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,734 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $440 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 31 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48

Great post Duffis! I am a honest quitter. I have fought my battle, and I am winning this war on addiction. My entire, already stressful world turned upsidedown when I quit smoking but you know what? I am still here, I am still fighting and I am still WINNING! I may still struggle with emotions from time to time but I don't give up! How much more of a powerful statement can that be to a newbie? A quit can be had by all if you are will to fight for it no matter what the circumstances. I haven't ever been one to see the world through rose color glasses. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 467 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,350 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1634.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 41 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26

Where do you draw the line between confrontation and a good discussion? Can there be more that one way to quit smoking? Do some people have an easier quit than others? The truth is the truth and bold face lies are just that, bold face lies and there has been enough of that to date. When I quit I made a promise to myself, no one else, just myself. Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say no. Likewise, there is an infinite array of circumstances that conspire to goad us into telling falsehoods, even when we hold a great reverence for truth. When you endeavor to consistently keep your word, however, you protect your reputation and promote yourself as someone who can be trusted to be unfailingly truthful. Though your honesty may not always endear you to others-for there will always be those who fear the truth-you can nonetheless be certain that your integrity is never tarnished by the patina of deceit. Since frankness and sincerity form the basis of all life-enriching relationships, your word is one of your most precious and powerful possessions. When we promise more than we can deliver, hide from the consequences of our actions through falsehoods, or deny our true selves to others, we hurt those who were counting on us by proving that their faith was wrongly given. We are also hurt by the lies we tell and the promises we break. Integrity is the foundation of civilization, allowing people to live, work, and play side by side without fear or apprehension. As you cultivate honesty within yourself, you will find that your honor and reliability put people at ease. Others will feel comfortable seeking out your friendship and collaborating with you on projects of great importance, certain that their positive expectations will be met. If you do catch yourself in a lie, ask yourself what you wanted to hide and why you felt you couldn't be truthful. And if life's surprises prevent you from keeping your word, simply admit your error apologetically and make amends quickly. A lot of you forget what you posted when you first began your quit. To say now that your quit was so easy and simple���well was it r