Thank you for sharing your story. It hit home with me.
I saw a large portion of my family in a different light many years ago when my son and I were going through a very hard time after my Mother died. They really turned on me...and on it goes to this day. I opted to go for 'me surviving' instead of writhing in the family 'stuff'. I agree with the cyber communication comments. Keeping a safe distance from family members that can hurt you emotionally, is a good thing. But, to 'divorce' them completely could prove in the end, regretful.
Maria
Hi there. I imagine this isnt good advice, but I tend to lean toward family is family... my family is pretty dysfunctional also, and I have found that keeping a cyber relationship with them works alot better for me than one where I see them alot. I can email them or they can email me...I enjoy them alot more that way. I dont know how dysfunctional your family is, but if they arent toxic then I would think it is worth a try to just keep a safe distance but to also keep in touch.
Hi i have been working the program for little over 2 months anyhow this may come as a surprise but my family is disfunctional they gossip lie etc...which i never saw until i have been getting better my immediate family is great mom dad bro kids hubby just the other part aunts cousins uncles etc.. anyhow i sort of broke ties though a fight they started with my mom at a wedding everyone was drunk anyhow we sortof lost touch for about 8 months well i was getting better and better and then my uncle called so i talked well obvious found out nothing changed all is the same there but thing being since i have changed my thoughts and my life i have been living by the rule is what i say or doing going to make someone happy or hurtful /i also try to live by the rule if you are angry at someone they hold power over you and today when he was gossiping i kinda went backwards with all i have worked for i didnt even have an attack for a good 3 weeks and today i am having one
So heres my question now seeing the harm they have caused and all the other nonesense should i just make amends and go back into the family that has hurt me and backstabbed me and my kids and mom numerous times or should i keep on the way i was honestly i was happier but then they are FAMILY as my uncle says anyone else ever have this dilemma ?if they were only friend i wouldnt have a prob but it is family please give me insight thank you :confuse:
