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Well, first of all you should congratulate yourself for going to a support group!!! The fact you froze in fear really didn't surprise you, did it? Think of the 'positive' thing you did!! I am proud of you and don't even know you. I was involved in a group that sounds something like yours' - I loved it!! I looked forward to going so much. I went for three years. It was so great to be with people who totally understood -I viewed it like I was going to a class. So, go next week!! Be proud of yourself!! If it takes you awhile to contribute to the group, so be it. In a group situation, you will find you will 'get' so much more out of it, if you 'give' to it. Jump right in, figure out the dynamics of the group and go for it - just like you are doing with this site. Take care...
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Hi everyone, last night i went to my first anxiety/panic support group and i had thought that i would be quite nervous but OK. WELL, i freaked and couldn't speak at all. i was the only one not to contribute. i froze in panic, it was so bad that i began to disociate completely and went numb. just the thought of trying to speak started my heart racing and i couldn't breathe. i do not understand why. i consciously know that no one in the group was going to hurt me or think awful things they are there to support etc, so why did the panic come back. Admittedly i have been in a comfort zone for some time and i guess i thought i was much better. today iam disappointed in myself and feel very nervous. i don't want to get sick again. iam determined to get better so i will go back next week, but i fear it will be worse. thank you. maria d.
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Like panic disorder and agoraphobia, social anxiety is a serious disorder that causes a great deal of suffering. People fear embarrassment and humiliation and worry about being judged. People with panic disorder worry about dying or losing control or going crazy. People with social anxiety experience panic in social situations and worry about being embarassed, judged or humiliated. It doesn't make sense,but neither does panic disorder. Like people with panic disorder, people with social anxiety "can't just get over it." If they could, they would. -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator
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Hi Brando, I'm going to be really blunt because I appreciate anyone who would love to be a teacher. As an aside, seems to me that most math teachers/ engineers have social problems (my dad was an aerospace engineer). Regarding your comment of fearing others are judging you: Guess What! Everybody is judging everybody! You are placing judgement towards others in thinking that they are even thinking of you. Bottom line is that you are as good as you are each second of each day. We all need improvement in a plethera of ways, nobody is perfect or ever will be. JUDGING on your initial email statement, I would say you are pretty intelligent, you have a passion/spark, you have compassion for others and that in it self is a whole lot more than most people in our society. Don't be so hard on yourself, join an association in your community (in particular, focus towards the age group you want to teach) and make eye contact followed by a smile- you really don't even have to say anything.
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Thanx. I was just thinking about how bad I was doing the day I wrote that. I had just returned from a friend's home, and they had guests, and I just blew it. I couldn't talk to them and they must have thought I was being rude or something. That's usually what people. They think I don't speak because I don't like them. Well, thanx again. I'll check the info out.
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Hello Brando, Wow...can I ever relate to what you're saying. I to have an incredibly hard time talking with, or in, groups of people. I€™ve basically tried to avoid it over the years. One thing I tried...and this isn't a plug...is reading Larry Kings book "How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere" The secrets to Good Communication. ISBN 0-517-59905-8. I think it helped me partially in that it gave me some ideas but it certainly wasn't a miracle cure. I'm still dealing with a number of personal issues around social anxiety primarily my self confidence. I'd recommended checking your local library for books as well as the net. Hope this is of some help. Ry
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Hi, Brando. Welcome to the site. It sounds like you have some of the symptoms of social anxiety disorder (social phobia) and perhaps you might profit from spending some time looking on the Net for more information about it. -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator
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Hi everyone. My name is Brando Castro. I currently attend UCLA and am working towards earning teaching credentials so that I teach Math at a local high school in Los Angeles after graduating. My desire has been to teach for quite sometimes now. Teachers were a huge positive influence in my educational upbringing and helped shape much of who I am today. My plan is to continue to do the same for other students. I have a problem though. To do this effectively, I need social skills, even at a minimal level. Sad to say, but I don't have them. I have no social skills. Unfortunately, its been this way for many years now. When i'm in situations where I have to talk to people, I become extremely nervous and I lose control over myself. I cannot control what I do or say and I carry on with constant fear that im being judged, sometimes of being ridiculed even when i'm not. I've struggled with this for much time. And I just don't know how to approach the problem. I sought therapeutic help but ended up in sessions with the wrong person. So that went down the drain. And the fact is, I need help. I really really do. I have reached a point where I know I cannot keep throwing dirt at this hoping that it'll dissappear on its own. Its affecting my life in every way and I need to deal with it. For the sake of my career and for the sake of my life. A word of advice would be great. Thanx much.

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