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*bump* [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 139 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,196 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $556 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
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There is A LOT of great information here. [quote]This new skill is also a safe guard to your quit. [u]If you can learn how to deal with life stressors appropriately[/u], your less likely to slip and give in due to stress.[/quote] I think if the above was addressed more often, we'd have a lot more successful Quitters. Thank you for a great thread MistyMoon. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 79 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,393 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $316 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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    $54,811.20

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    Days: 6042 Hours: 18

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Members, This is a great topic of discussion! Many who used smoking as a coping mechanism, now struggle with learning how to control their emotions in an acceptable manner. In the past, when confronted with a frustrating situation you always paused to smoke before or after dealing with the situation to calm your nerves and think. Again, the principles of behavior modification apply. You have to learn how to replace this coping mechanism with a new one! You can develop a plan to help you with this. Having a plan before you're actually in the situation can help you exert more control. Identify your triggers, insert a new coping mechanism and reward yourself for handling the situation well. Reinforcing this new behavior will only encourage it to become habit. An example: Trigger: Somebody stole my parking spot Coping mechanism: 2 deep breaths and asking myself; " Is it worth getting upset over? Will this matter tommorrow " (If the answer is yes, then speak up in a calm direct manner, standing tall with shoulder back. Communicate your strength through body language and choice of words and strong valid arguments.) Coping mechanism: Still upset, will write a letter to the guy who stole my parking space, listen to music... whatever will make me feel better. Reward: Long bath at the end of the day Hope this helps, Danielle _________________________ The SSC Support Team
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Misty Moon, You're right, it may be an uncomfortable silence but it also gives the other party a chance to calm down. Keep practicing this new skill. It will take some work but it's much better than drowning your sorrows in a cloud of smoke:) This new skill is also a safe guard to your quit. If you can learn how to deal with life stressors appropriately, your less likely to slip and give in due to stress. Remember S.I.N.T.A. (Smoking Is Not The Answer) Keep us posted on your progress, Danielle ____________________________ The SSC Support Team
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sorry, I forgot my meter. 4my2girls [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 208 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,255 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $680.16 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59
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Hello MistyMoon, My personal experience has been to love thy neighbor. Treat others as you would like to be treated. If you let people get to you, then you are giving THEM your power and energy. The easiest and energy-free way to handle difficult situations is to be the bigger person. Yelling at people gets you nowhere, except battle. It is very difficult, I know, but your values have to come first. I am not the type of person who lets people walk all over me. However, I will pick my battles. Either way, a dignified response gets you further than yelling back will. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 208 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,255 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $680.16 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
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Boy oh boy, can I relate. I just started a new job mostly because the last place that I worked at was full of nut cases. I'm in upper management and I gotta tell ya, its brutal up here. I had no idea, the more you move up in an organization, the more it feels like high school all over again. Jealousy, rivalry, plotting, planning.. gees, its really wierd. Anyway, I had worked at my last company for four year when I quit smoking. I didn't realize how much I felt like I was taking crap from them until I quit smoking and "stuff" just started flying out of my mouth. There were times that I should have just put my hand over my mouth and continued to scream ;-). I would say that I probably fell on the passive side of the fence and once I quit smoking started heading for becoming a very mean person. I was honestly VERY worried about it. Leaving that job seems to have helped a lot. Of course, I'm in upper management at the new job too, a HUGE firm with 70,000 employees, so I suspect the plotting and planning will eventually be worse ;-). But, I get to start over, deal with these people with a fresh perspective. Deal with the issues as they arise, instead of having to deal with them after having smoked negative emotions and reactions to them for years. I'm hoping now that I don't smoke I'll have to control my emotions but still confront any problems that arise as they happen. I'm going to have to use my voice to resolve the problem instead of saying OK and heading down stairs to smoke my anger. I think I still need to learn to be assertive, God I have to admit that. I do great WORK, but I'm not so sure I do great problem solving with people, especially if the conversation gets heated and emotional. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 175 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,268 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1225 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53

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