Hey Windy, keep it coming.....it is certainly not to much to read.....:) That's what this forum is for......long raves, short raves, novels if necessary.....:) If you put it in a journal your not going to get the feedback!!! So please keep it out here and share it with us.
I know the feeling with the elevated anxiety Windy....before giving up smoking it was a thing I have also had to deal with and naturally I am having to deal with it completely in the raw now that I have quit. This is a good thing though.
As Gonna said 'stress is stress', good bad or ugly and most importantly we can't avoid it, stress happens throughout life and NEVER stops visiting us, mostly catching us off guard as we are not prepared. I think you are wise giving thought to what it will be like for you when you hit what you perceive to be a really 'bad stress' situation. Preparation is the key Windy......be ready for it. You and I have been quit since the same day and I feel I have a reasonable fix on where you might be coming from with your thinking on this one.
I have endured and survived a number of extremely stressful events in this first 11 days (dateline thing). I never thought I would make it through a heavy stressful event but I have. I managed because I have become so acutely aware that smoking a cigarette has NEVER solved a single problem for me in the past. Smoking doesn't solve problems it creates them. Smoking will actually make a bad time worse. I say that because when we are suffering the last thing we need is to 'punish' ourselves even further. My motivation for smoking had always been 'reward'. These smoke free days have given me a great window of opportunity to reflect on my former belief that smoking was my reward for having done this or that, task completed......time for a smoke. Who was I trying to fool, clearly only myself. Which brings me to my point. I had deluded myself into believing that smoking gave me something valuable. That smoking would be my 'friend' when I needed help, re-assurance, relaxation, timeout....especially when things got tough. But what I have discovered is that I was trying to rely on something 'outside' of myself to rescue and comfort me. Now I am learning to rely on myself. I acknowledge that this means that I MUST learn new skill