Kiwi,
You can always talk to me about depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. I would never diagnose someone with panic attacks or anxiety but, you've been to the doctor and that's great. It is very important to talk to someone about your attacks.
Another self help tool is to always have your cell phone with you. Program your wife's number into your phone (Your speed dial) and if you have an attack, she can talk you through it. It's so weird, just telling someone that you're having an attack, especially someone you trust, makes you relax.
Kiwi, the thing with attacks is that your system goes on "Red Alert." Stress, an upset in your daily routine, and God knows what all can send your nervous system into "Red Alert" and then, there comes an anxiety/panic attack.
You're not insane and you are in control. If you'll notice, you're very much in control at your job, taking care of the family, and all of those have to's. But, after you've taken care of those have to's, the stress has become too much.
This world has become so damn stressful that really, you can't swing a cat without hitting someone who has panic/anxiety/depression. It's an illness like any other. It doesn't mean your insane at all. It means your stress level is super high and anxiety/panic attacks are how that stress is affecting your body. My Mom burns from head to toe.....like her skin is burning underneath. My best friend breaks out in a rash. My 26 year old son will break out in a rash. I have anxiety/panic attacks. My cousin will go into a deep depression. Some people lose their hair......Uh, I think that must be what happened to my husband. HEEEEEEE!! Truly, stress affects people in so many different ways. You and I happen to suffer from anxiety/panic attacks. Have you ever noticed your body completely tensed up, rigid, from stress? Even without having a panic attack? Watch your body for those signs......clammy palms will be another sign. If you notice your body tensing up, wet or clammy palms, tight chest, that's when you want to start your deep, slow breathing. Concentrate on relaxing from your feet all the way up to your head.
I have noticed that since I quit smoking, my anxiety has returned to a point so, I'm leaving off caffeine for now. I ha