My wife and I have a couple of small properties that we rent out and on the whole, we have very little bother with them.
About a year ago, a new couple moved into one of them and through no fault of his own, the guy lost his job and became quite ill. We had a long saga of being understanding and allowing the rent arrears to build up, nearly having to go through the unpleasant process of eviction, but eventually, things have worked out and we seem to be back on track.
You can't fail to notice however, that they both smoke. The house stinks, they stink, their dog stinks and their three kids stink. They smoke a packet of cigarettes a day each and they have very little other than a bit of furniture and some basic household goods.
I called around the other day to see how they were and heard about the shadow on his lung. They are hoping that it is nothing serious and he has "cut down" his smoking. The conversation turned to smoking and I told them about this site and my own experiences.
Basically they didn't want to know and talked about the subject in order to be polite. It did raise an eyebrow briefly when I worked out quickly that it cost them nearly �4000 per year to smoke. He also told me of a relative that had lost a leg through smoking.
I wanted to slap them!
How could they be so stupid!
Did he not see that he was going to die young!
Then the sobering thought............I spent 35 years with the same mindset that they have.............
I would not talk about it, I pretended that it wouldn't happen to me, I mistook the relief of the withdrawral symptoms as "pleasure" and buried my head in the sand.
Now I feel sad for them.
Those of you who are at the beginning of the journey, please take comfort from the fact that the difficulties you have at the moment will pass. It gets easier very day but it is also easy to forget why you are stopping the addiction and for the drug to get you again.
Perhaps the biggest encouragement should come from the fact that I managed to stop. As a confirmed smoker of 35 years experience, I had a trail of unsuccessful quits, excuses and junky reasons for giving up giving up. If I can do it then anyone can!
The biggest reason that I succeeeded.............I found a forum that would put up with my