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It's okay Marg, I did the samething last week only with a co-worker and didn't realize what I was doing, not sure it was the quit, but I sorta snapped a little, one of the people looked at me and said "take a deep breath, I think it was the withdraw talking" and she may have been right, but I did calm down. It wasn't so much the withdraw, it was the topic we were discussing. My point is, everyone you work with is extremely glad you quit, and they will be able to adjust to the new you ;-) Mr. Magic.
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Today we've had a hellish day at work.....it's a blizzard outside and the power keeps going on and off and all of our technical equipment is failing and in the midst of all of that, I barked at my poor boss, who's a lovely guy, and it's his birthday, to boot. I'm not liking this bad temper flare-ups that come from time to time. It's in exactly those moments that I used to go have a smoke. I apologized, and explained that since I quit smoking, I seem to have a low tolerance from the stress that comes when things go wrong. I haven't smoked. But I'm sure hoping this passes, because I'm not liking myself much right now. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 35 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 890 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $525 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
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Hi all, and thanks so much for your support and feedback. A couple of things I should say to you Butterfly Swimmer. I hope I didn't paint too dire a picture. My job is not on the line, and my boss was completely understanding...in fact he said he could see the demon on my shoulder, encouraging me to light up. Does that make what I did okay? No it doesn't. If I thought that my behavior was appropriate, I wouldn't have posted in the first place. I was troubled that I'd be so short with my boss, whom I like and respect very much. I catch myself losing it a bit when I used to have a smoke instead and remain steady. My co-workers tell me they'd rather I barked a bit than started smoking again.....I've got a pretty good support group. But it's unnerving...and I'm struggling to gain my momentum...don't forget, this was a day when everything that could go wrong, did go wrong. No excuses though......Butterfly, you've given me a lot to think about there...your nail in the fence example has me cringing. And thanks to Mr.Magic, Imallclear and Determined2Quit....you're all big sweeties. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 35 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 897 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $525 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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I'm sure you're not the only one who feels that way Butterfly Swimmer. I also think you have some really good points. We do need to be careful not to blame everything on the quit. I think we all benefit from hearing all sides. In the end we all take what we want and/or need anyway. Either way, it is really nice to feel the support and that doesn't always mean agreement, just consideration. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 38 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 387 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $190 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55
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You couldn't be nicer than to apologize right away. Sorry, for your outburst and uncomfortable random emotions. You know, this temperment really is stemming from the physical changes in your body and your adaptation to a new coping style. We hate to see innocent people hurt along the way, but your outburst indicates that you are being successful in your quit. And yes, it will pass so that one day you will wake up your sweet self. Now go do something extra nice for your boss' birthday. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 38 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 386 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $190 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12
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Am I way off base here or am I merely the only one who grasps the severity of the situation? WE here all understand getting upset and blowing up, but will others? Those who haven't ever smoked, and much less never quit, aren't going to be as understanding about the anger that comes with quitting. I just don't want to see Marg lose her job over blowing up at her boss. And apologizing immediately is great, but this all just reminds me of the little boy who couldn't control his temper. His dad told him that for every time he lost his temper, he had to go hammer one nail in the fence. Finally, after a lot of nails had been hammered in the fence, he learned to control his temper more and more. Then, his dad told him that every time he controled his temper, he had to take one nail out of the fence. Finally, after all of the nails were out of the fence, and the boy was much older, the father showed him the fence and said, "see all those nail holes? Even though it's been a long time since those nails were put in there, and you took them all out by controling your temper, the holes still remain. Those are like the scars that are left after we get mad at people. The nail might be gone, but the hole will always be there." Marg, just be careful with your temper. Believe me, I totally understand blowing up at people... I've been there myself... but I really don't want you to think that it's OK to blow up at people just because you're quitting. People will understand for only so long. Am I the only one who feels this way? Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 465 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,640 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1920.45 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17
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Woah! It's NOT ok to blame everything on your quit... especially when it comes to getting upset with your higher ups. Take control of your actions... if you start to get upset, walk away, take deep breaths and learn to deal with your anger in a positive way. This anger problem will not go away by itself if you don't deal with it. Read [url=http://www.stopsmokingcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?topic=32265&forum=1]blaming the quit[/url] for more on this. When we quit, sure, we get a little irritable from time to time... but the old "I'm sorry, I quit smoking" routine only works for so long. People around you will be sympathetic for a while, but after a month or so, that same old line gets old. Be careful! I know quitting is hard and we do seem to get upset more easily after a while, but WE still control how we react. I hope your boss was understanding this time... next time, he might not be as understanding. Find some healthy ways to deal with your anger and stress without taking it out on others... it's not fair to them, just because you quit smoking. I hope I haven't been too hard on you... I just don't want to see you lose your job or worse because of quitting smoking. Take care of yourself and those 35 days and be good to yourself! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 465 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,640 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1920.45 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
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My stress level has actually improved greatly. It wasn't like that in the beginning of my quit. I think it began after I got over the "poor me" phase. I can honestly say that I ma much more calm and patient, even with my 8 and 4 year old kids. I think I finally learned how to deal with stress (and life for that matter) without relying on a little white stick to do it for me. Try your hardest right now but know it will get better and it will be even better than when you were smoking!!!!!!! Stay strong - stay quit. D2Q [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 252 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,052 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $756 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 23 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
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Marg, It will pass and you will succeed! Take some relaxation time and really pamper yourself! You deserve you time and it can make a difference. Work on ways to relieve yourself of that stress and become more positive. The members have offered some great advice, take what you need and keep it close :) Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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