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Monica, you are in my thoughts. I don't know what illness your husband suffers from but I watched my Mom take care of my Dad for 4 plus years and it was very difficult, very difficult. My hat off to you for keeping it together. Maire
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Monica my friend, sorry I am late posting. First things first, big ((((((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))). I wish I had the words to change things, but I do not. Believe me if I had a magic wand I would wave it in your direction. I know from your first post, that it has not been easy. But as Audrey stated your quit is the one thing you can control. 1. Go out to a movie. 2. Scream into a pillow 3. Go to the grocery store and say hello to everyone. See how many people will smile back. If people look at you like you are strange that is okay there is nothing wrong with saying hello. 4. Eat ice cream before dinner. 5. Jump on the couch (with your shoes on :eg:) 6. And last but not least, my favorite, turn up the music really loud and dance around the kitchen like you were a young child and don't forget to sing at the top of your lungs. Monica we are all here for you. As you see, the SSC Angel has a lot of friends. Speaking of friends, did you have a chance to go out to lunch with your girlfriend? If not then maybe a group of us could meet one day on IM and have lunch together, I know it is not the same, but it could be fun. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Julie P.S. As I told Lady, I really did hear on the radio last week that breaking dishes really does help. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/15/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 70 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,417 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $245 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25
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Monica, Sleep well. I don't know what to say for I don't know how to help. I like what you said about your quit being your own and that you don't want to give it up and no one can take it from you. All of that is true. Hold on to that one thing that you can control. There are many things in this world that we, and I know you know this well, have no control over so we should be the master of those things that we can. Love and Prayers, Audrey [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,397 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $193.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12
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Omg..ladycigevictor! YOU made me laugh OUTLOUD! [quote] Apply for survivor...you're a shoe in. [/quote] Thanks for all of your suggestions and I'm seriously considering collecting some old dishes and whacking the crap out of them! As well the wetcanvas idea sounds super. Ok.. My eyes will be peeled here tomorrow for more ideas..keep 'em coming my friends. I'm heading to bed in mere moments - exhaustion has set in and sleep is the best thing for me right now. Love and hugs and many many thank you's.. resting my head on all available shoulders. Monica58 [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,476 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $657 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
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Monica...so sorry I did not see your post until now. Whichever way you're leaning....here's my shoulder....relax, you're covered now. Breathe...in...out...in....out....repeat. :) :) ((((((magic hugs)))))) :) :) I have no magic buttons or cures, but heres a few ideas: Break dishes. You can use the ones I have left. If you enjoy painiting, try wetcanvas. You can spend days there just looking and learning. Write a book or rip one up. Adopt a baby (just kidding...get a pet rock). Train for a marathon. No, triathalon...takes longer. Run until the wind lifts your hair off your face or until it rains. Throw a party. No, throw a week long party and invite SSC. BYOB Apply for survivor...you're a shoe in. Hug yourself...really...hug yourself and tell yourself how wonderful and amazing you are...because you are. Pat First Mate Magic Ship [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/28/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 57 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,312 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $798 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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I may take you up on that Stormy.. :) And Windy it's just a pile up of so many things and I just got so caught up with everything. So much responsibility and wondering where do I fit in? I continue to make headway with my quit which is a struggle in itself as you know.. but these responsibilities that I have at times are simply gruelling. I often think that my thoughts are selfish ones but then I speak to my friends or my mom or sister and they remind me that four years plus of constant horribleness (is that a word?) would take its toll on anyone. The thing is this - My quit is so important to me. It's something just for me.. I am responsible for it, I own it.. It's mine. But that seems to be the only thing that I have and it's just not enough. I don't want to lose it because if I do I have nothing. I've implemented so many changes in my personal life (what there is of it) and I'm really quite a different person than I was 73 days ago. I feel more empowered but I also feel beaten down like an old dog and I'm only 49. I have to refocus as duffis said in one of the posts and that takes a sounder mind than what I have right now. Rest seems to be a luxury at this point but I made a decision today to go with hubby to see his social worker and discuss 'the situation' here at home. I'm going to write down everything that needs doing, his depression/emotional/mental state and get her to really look at me. I will not give in .. nor give up on my quit. Please.. keep me strong .. I'm open to all suggestions. I have approximately 2-3 hrs each day that I fill with walks, a movie, a little reading, painting etc. I'm eating better (healthier) and as a result lost 10 lbs.. drinking lots of water and switched over to decaf coffee. If there's anything.. ANYTHING else anyone can suggest I'm all ears. Thanks again friends... Monica58 [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,475 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $657 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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Hi Monica - I just got on SCC and had no idea that you were going through such a rough time. I'm sorry that I haven't known. You are surrounded by so many friends here that really care and really want to help. Unfortunately quitting smoking does not make all the difficulties in life go away and, yes, for awhile, quitting seems to make life feel more difficult. I'm not sure when it happened, but at some point quitting became less of a struggle (and I think it was sometime after 100 days for me) There have been struggles (though I admit not as hard as yours) and I've considered smoking but, I realize that it would help. Now, I have to sit down and think about what will make me feel better - exercise, a snack, a nap, a visit with a friend, some quiet time or some social time.... If depression starts to linger, I have to fight it tooth and nail (I was glad that you were walking because getting active does seem to help) You have worked so hard and done so well....You are almost there! I know that you aren't getting what you need in life right now...but please think long and hard because I don't think that smoking will do it for you. We'll be thinking about you lots....please keep us posted. Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 196 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,934 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $980 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2
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Monica, I don't have great words of wisdom, but I wanted you to know that I DO have a shoulder you can lean on. I'm a great listener. Come and take a rest. Hope you're feeling better? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 252 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,021 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $945 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 27 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
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Dear Changing.. I re read something you wrote... [quote] ..we are all around you - you are supported from all sides! So, no matter which way you lean, we are there to hold you up. [/quote] You are SO right! Sometimes when things just get to be too much for one person to deal with on an on-going basis you begin to feel so alone - and even with the in person people you can feel desperately alone with few who truly understand the way you are feeling. But Changing, I know I'm supported from all sides and if I teeter one way or the other there will be someone here to cushion my fall.. and I'll never hit bottom. *tears*... such a comforting thought. I learned from past experiences that when I ever feel that all is failing me and that there is the smallest of chances that I may run out to the store, I should come here 1st and I'm so grateful that I did. I've got a lot of despair going on right now and no solutions in sight but I know there is always hope, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. And I also know that with the better weather I'll be going out for more walks to clear the cob webs. Thanks again everyone for your incredible support/advice/insight.. I treasure each of you ! Monica58 [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,472 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $657 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
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Monica, You have received a lot of great advice and support. Take what you need and keep it close. Yes, take some time to focus and live. If you get the urge, we are here to help :) Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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