As addicts we have to change our ways if we want our behaviors/habits to change :) In order to stay smoke-free we cannot be the same person we were when we smoked. Addicts tend to be emotionally immature b/c we don't know how to deal with our feelings/emotions very well. Here's something that might help to change the way we think.
there are 3 sides to the
average Human Personality:
1. The PARENT ego state.
2. The ADULT ego state, and
3. The CHILD ego state.
When a person is functioning from the PARENT
ego state, this individual is functioning from an
authoritative, bossy, opinionated, and critical
state of mind. Which gives this person a bad
attitude.
(A) These kinds of people deal with the world
with a lot shoulds and oughts.
When a person is functioning from the ADULT
ego state, this individual is functioning from a
realistic state of mind.
(A) These kinds of people dealwith the world
as it really is.
When a person is functioning from the CHILD
ego state, this individual is functioning from a
immature state of mind.
(A) These kinds of people dealwith the world
as they wish, hope and dream it could
be.
For an example of a Stimuli-Response of these
three ego states check out the following
Question/Answer instances:
1. Q: What time do you have? (ADULT Ego State)
A: Time for you to get a watch!!!
(PARENT Ego State)
2. Q: What time do you have? (ADULT Ego State)
A: It is 10 minutes after 5.(ADULT Ego State)
3. Q: What time do you have? (ADULT Ego State)
A: It's time to go Party and have Fun. (CHILD Ego
State)
Precious One, if you'd noticed the above
examples, you'd see that the ONLY person who really
gave an answer to the Question, was the person who
was functioning from the ADULT Ego State. For
neither the PARENT, nor the CHILD gave an actual
answer to the question asked of them. Instead, they
answered from an "attitude" and a "feeling", instead
of their Brain. Yet the Questioner is seeking
information from the Brain.
Just breathe.......................................Ahhhhhhhhh
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/16/2007
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 80
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $19.20
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
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Quit Meter
$28,356.00
Amount Saved
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Days: 627
Hours: 4
Minutes: 45
Seconds: 32
Life Gained
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4726
Smoke Free Days
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94,520
Cigarettes Not Smoked