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I think you make great points dsb8551!

I think we all need to remind ourselves to be a bit less critical, especially with ourselves.

It can be hard to remember some times, can't it? I find sometimes focusing on what to be thankful for automatically makes me a bit less ciritical. How do you remind yourself? 

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Also, if you are like me, every time you do something not quite perfect you feel like maybe it's ok to punish/reward yourself with a cigarette, or maybe it's OK to slip up and smoke because you've already "failed" and are beating yourself up for it.
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I'm sorry you haven't gotten a response sooner. I am exactly the same way. I like to be the world's leading expert at everything I do, immediately, and know everything there is to know, yesterday if not sooner. I have a hard time getting negative feedback (even though it's the best kind of feedback, take it from an electrical engineer) because I have a hard time disconnecting the lesson to learn from personal criticism. I think the #1 thing to keep in mind is that failure isn't a reflection of your character, but I know exactly how hard it is to remember that at times. Mistakes aren't a problem unless you don't learn from them.
 
It definitely ties into smoking because, at least for me, I feel like I have to be good at quitting, and when I'm not, when I struggle with it, it adds another load of stress to the equation. I feel like I'm supposed to be really good at everything that I do, so when I am constantly battling with thoughts about smoking, it seems like I should be so beyond that already. I also overanalyze things to death (which was good for getting a PhD, not so good for quitting smoking) which leads me to second guess everything I do, which does not help when I'm having those awful addict thoughts about relapsing. Don't play devil's advocate with an addict.
 
Wish I could offer some advice, other than to just go easy on yourself. If anybody else knows how to stop being your own worst enemy, I'll be all ears!!! 
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Does anyone here struggle with perfectionism? I have known this about myself since I was a kid. I have always had high, rigid and unreasonable expectations for myself- and others. When I quit smoking, at first I try to be perfect at everything- exercise, eat right, etc. So when I realize I'm doing this, I end up taking a step back. I have been too hard on myself and on those around me for too long. No one is perfect, right? I feel much better as I try to accept myself for me, and stop trying to save the world and solve everyone's problems. It feels selfish, even though it is not- I cannot change people around me! The awesome thing is I WANT to change my thinking and perspective so that I am not so critical on myself and others. I don't know how related this is to smoking, but I notice every time I have quit I fall back into this extreme perfectionist trap.

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