This is a tough situation but it sounds like you have a very realistic view of how you want to proceed. It can be tough socially when you are trying to lead a healthier lifestyle when past relationships may have been based on that behaviour. It is clear you care about your friend but you are right people do change and it is important you put your health first. If you feel this relationship is not positive for you then it is best to distance yourself at least until you are more confident in your quit.
I think getting together to talk about this is very healthy and mature. I think it is important to be open and honest with her about you feel without being hurtful. What do you want to say to her? If the situation was reversed what would you want your friend to say or do? What do you want to get out of meeting up with her?
Last nite an old friend who I had plenty of drunk time with, called and asked me how long hadI been dry. A WORD I HATE. I told her 3 months and she said "Ohhhh poor you". I was livid.
I know she feels like I'm not bothering with her cause she is still drinking but when I do call her, she is always drinking and doesn't remember what I've said.
I've know her for 20years and I hate to see our friendship go out the window but I honestly don't gravitate towards her any more.
Anyhow, I told her I would call her back in a while cause if I stayed on the line I would have blown up at her.
She calls back a leaves this long winded mess about how we probably don't have any thing in common anymore and how hurt she is and blah blah blah........
I did call her back and said I would see her next week. I do really care about her and she has been such a good friend to me but I guess if life, things change between people.
