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Hi Ashley,

Thanks!! Yes, I will keep you updated. I plan on talking to her this weekend.

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Hi Charmain,

This is a very difficult situation but I think you are doing the right thing by talking to her about it. Remember to put yourself first during this. You are going through a difficult life change right now and to be blunt her problems are not your problems so be sure you don't take them on. If you feel you need space from her right now then do so. Keep us updated on how it goes.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

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Thankyou PJ & Jojo64

For your encourgement in this rather difficult situation. I will talk to her about drinking on the phone and at least when we are together in person she refrains.

Wishing you both another happy 24 hours.

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Hi Charmain,

During my episodes last year and my decisions to quit drinking, things with my friends started to change. Since I prefered to not going to bars etc, eventually, they just stopped calling me to hang out. I've kept in contact with a few friends who drink, but they drink socially and acceptably. There is no issue to hang out and have a sober night, because the alcohol isn't their priority.

I used to feel down, and challenge myself, thinking oh I could just have one. To feel accepted. When the relapses started friends and I drifted more. I can relate to you because I never wanted to walk away and tried to keep in touch as best as I could. When I realized the only time people wanted to hang out was to drink and drug, I realized I have to be able to be with people who don't need substances. IS this a reflection of their drinking and drugging issues? I'm not sure. I know in recovery you need to focus on yourself.

It's hard to let go of the people you've been so close with, but sometimes you need to.

People, places, and things.

I'm finding doing things sober, with people has made me appreciate things so much more then I did before. I'm sorry for your difficult situation, and can totally relate.

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Hi Charmain - that's a tough one. I don't have the same situation but I am struggling with how things are going to be with friends with whom drinking has always been a bonding activity. I haven't been trying to be sober long enough to see how it will pan out but I can definitely see where your frustation is coming in and how that could wind up being the case. It takes a lot of strength to make the decision to walk away from people. I really hope that your friend will see how things are going for you and see you as a role model for her own choices. Is she someone you can talk to about drinking (like ask her not to drink when you're on the phone together because you're trying to abstain?). It would be so nice if she could be supportive of your choices. Wishing you strength in this,

Jojo64

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So I have this friend who has been a good friend for 25 years and when ever I get sober, we drift apart.

Last nite I was talking to her on the phone and can clearly hear when she's starts drinking.

She started to get loud and someof the conversation was boring me to death. I have no patience to deal with

her anymore and feel bad that our lives are going in 2 different directions.

I guess in sobriety there are some people, you have to leave behind.

She's also mixing with anti depressants and a drug called Lyrica, which is really dangerous mixing this combo with alcohol.

So I will be talking to her about this once again.

Does anyone else have these kind of friends that they might have to walk away from.

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