dear diva,
i'm sorry to hear about your bad day!!!!!!i think all of us had been their before.please just let your friend know whats up.you would be surprized at how people react to this disorder.hope your doing well!!!p.s.thanks everyone for talking about the "drinking"subject,its the best feeling to know that i'm not alone!!!!!we all stick together!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish to make some postive comments on the journalising idea. I usually use it when I am overwhelmed with worrying thoughts. It is as if I just can't think anymore, that is when I start writing and it is so powerful. I see in my writing the critical self, the rational self and I usually solve and calm myself with whatever problem I had been trying to solve. Somehow it is easier to solve through journalising - by just writing whatever comes. It really works.
:)
Thanks for the tips Wholesale5 :) I have started keeping a journal. But i certainely will try it as a way of doing a time-out when i feel flooded with emotions. I really appreciate the tips cause spazz days, sad days and scary days are real tough not to be overwhelmed by . Thanks again. sounds like a great tip :) Will try it!
-Diva
I just wanted to second that journal recommendation. It sounds like a great idea to write at the beginning of the day to check in with where you're at so you can be aware of anxiety or whatever during the day. I think I'll try that. Another application for journals is something that a friend told me about a few years ago. She told me how journal writing had helped her in dealing with particularly difficult times. Now when I have one of those situations where I just feel totally out of control or discouraged or angry - just any overwhelming emotion that doesn't seem to be passing quick enough - I pull out a notebook and write down my thoughts. Just stream of consciousness. I write until I feel I've gotten everything out and on paper. My friend keeps these types of journal entries in their own notebook. I just tear out the pages when I'm feeling better and throw them away. It doesn't solve the underlying problem for me or anything, but it keeps me from feeling like I'm going to burst AND saves me from blowing up at or dumping on people around me when I know (at least on some level) that I'm not going to behave rationally or like a "normal person." It's sort of just a self-imposed time out / calm down a little technique for me.
Thanks Moochela that is great advice :)I have been incontact with my firend and he says i am no spazz and he would be my firend even if i was lol. He said he will wait to know why i do what i do till i am ready to tell him but till then he doesn't mind if i have my odd moments at time. :) So i think when i work up the courage i will just explain it to him. He is very open-minded, more then i thought! Thanks so much for responding to me :) I think you are right and it is good that i figure out my behavioors and stuff. Somtimes it is just hard to see what we are doing right without somebody pointing it out for us. so thanks very much!
-Diva
Hi Diva
Hope you are feeling better now! Do not be so hard on yourself! at least you are aware of your actions and what is going on so perhaps next time you will be able to stop a little sooner? Talk to your friend, most people understand and can be a great source of support and we are always here as well.
:)
Diva,
I'm sorry to hear you're having a bad day.
You've received some great advice from your fellow members. Telling your friend about the reasons behind your actions may help him to understand.
Also be sure to continue working through the program. If the root cause of your actions was anxiety, perhaps beginning a routine would help?
Have you ever thought of keeping a journal? Journalling at the start of your day may help make you more aware of your anxiety and subsequently give you an opportunity to keep it at a manageable level. It would also give you an outlet for your emotions that could potentially reduce your anxiety by releasing it on paper.
I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon.
Danielle
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Thanks Isabella and lorlee for your support and advice :) It means a lot to me :)
I have been thinking about clarifying things with him like you said Isabella, Maybe i will.
I have also been thinking abut wether or not i will let him know i have anxiety and panic disorders like lorlee said, Anyway, i am still thinking on this.
Thanks again for the advice and the support it really helps!
-Diva
