Sorry i havnt got any tips as im not very good at saying things myself , made my husband phone in sick when i was . But i would like to say Johnny that i think that its great that you wrote and said what was wrong . I wouldnt have thought of that . Hope you feel better now .
I think that it is great that you are able to recognize how important dialogue can be, and knowing that you fear repercussions is half the battle to being able to overcome these fears.
What do you feel is the worst that can happen? When and if you are having anxious thoughts, here are some questions that can help you to challenge these thoughts.
When you have an anxious thought, answer some of these 10 questions:
1. Is it "true"?
2. How do I know it’s true?
3. Is it 100% true? (remember something that is 75% or 99% true is
not 100% true)
4. What's the evidence for it being true?
5. What’s the evidence against it being true?
6. Has it ever happened before?
7. What's different now?
8. If it were true, how bad would it really be?
9. What's the worst thing that could happen?
10. If the worst thing happened, how bad would it really be?
Members, please feel free to add any tips or strategies you find helpful when trying to challenge your anxious thoughts.
Had some more unscheduled absences from work. Forced myself to send a note to my supervisor trying to express the core reasons for onset of "spinout" as someone recently referred to it.
Though partly separated from face to face, by opening up the dialogue it helped get people at lease responding and explaining their side of my misperception/interpretation.
It can be so easy to get tangled up in my own thoughts and beliefs and then shyness blocks asking how real my perceptions are. I know that risking dialogue is the best way though I still fear repercussions, other people's emotions etc.
