Hi m: I like what you wrote about the child's fears being real etc. and not dismissing them. That's what I have to do with myself, not be so hard on myself. Treat myself like a precious friend, or child. Thanks for the reminder.
Hi wrestler: good luck! So glad you found out what it really is and are moving forward with it. As Tiana says, you trusted yourself - way to go! Some of my hardest times are "should I" or "shouldn't I" go to the doctor. I will try and trust my instincts more too, have the balance and weigh the information.
What a learning experience! I agree with ~m. You found balance, you weighed the evidence, you trusted yourself. You had been given lots of various bits of advice (even from me), and in the end, you figured it out. I'm happy for you.
Thanks for the update David. I'm so glad you found out what it was and have a plan for follow-up treatment. Your experience here is a really good reminder for all of us to find the balance. Not just dismiss our fears and worries, but to respect them (they are real and make us feel awful) and question them...
I'm not saying this right, but the old adage that just because you are paranoid doesn't mean nobody is after you... rings true here. I struggle with total black and white thinking so I would have dismissed the physical as "just" the result of fear. We do need to listen and question and be gentle with ourselves. I think that is important.
I mean, if you tell a small child.... "oh, you are fine your fears are not real"... it just makes the child feel dismissed, stupid, unimportant. If you listen and question and examine the fear with the child... it either is proven true or it isn't and can then be let go of. That's what I think anyway. That's what I'm trying to do with myself. Take the time to show respect and understanding and not just dismiss my pain as not real.
For the first time in a while my worries were real. I had described a pressure in my lower back that I have had for weeks and it turns out, after a visit to the ER at midnight until 5 am, that I had 2 kidney stones. They have been bouncing around my kidneys for weeks.
I was used to throbbing pain when I get stones, but not just a stiffness or soreness in my kidney area. This is why I was thrown off from realizing what I needed to do. It also helped create a lot of anxiety and worries about possible problems I was having.
Needless to say, this revelation eased my mind and my wife's mind.
I have a follow up visit to schedule with a urologist this week. Good thing I am off until Thursday.
