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for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 424

Hello Sunny...

I am so sad to hear of your loss of your Mother...

My Thoughts and prayers are with you...

Bren

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1665

Hello: Thank you for your kind words, your sympathies.

Definitely have beautiful memories of my mother. How she loved Christmas and made it special for the children. Sometimes three trees in a row, the tallest in the middle, all lit up with a large village underneath, horse and carriage, little fences, lit up houses (cardboard in those days, not ceramic like today) and always a beautiful manger up the mountain which the villagers could walk up to. As children we were mesmerized and were actually allowed to play with it! That horse and carriage carried the villagers up that mountain many, many times. lol.

When we came back from Europe we had collected many more little things to add to it, what fun.

Have spent time on the phone today, talking with family, etc. Luckily arrangements had been made by my brother and me last year so that was already taken care of, one less stress at this time.

Thank you again for thinking of me and your prayers,

Sunny

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 4027

I saw Shari's post below and was encouraged, on "one of those days" when my mood was low. Thank you Shari!

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 2508

Sunny,

Sorry for your loss..

My heart and prayers go out to you today...

Red...

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 4027

Sunny,

Sorry for your losss

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 12049

Sunny,

Our thoughts are with you. Please take some time to grieve for yourself and rest in the comfort that you have Davit close to help you.

Keep the beautiful memories of your mother close.

Sympathies,

Josie, Health Educator

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1665

Sad news tonight. My mother died peacefully in her sleep. I knew it was just a matter of time, we were expecting it.

I feel sad but numb right now, which is understandable. I will see what tomorrow is like.

I had to call my sister who lives in Australia. It was not a good call. I was criticized for some things. All I wanted to do was give her the news. I will try to remember that her attitudes and perceptions belong to her, it is her problem, not mine. Still, it makes me sad. Davit said that it is now in the past, it's gone. But I don't feel it is in the past just yet, it's still hurting and I feel angry. I'm trying not to give my power away as was written below, but it's like a double whammy. For some reason we have never gotten along even as children. Have I made an effort, did I try my best. I think I can answer yes to those questions.

Sunny

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 4027

That arbitrary decision about what to think, as Henry Ford stated "...whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you are right..." can leverage a great number of resources if you make the best decision for you, at the time.

That essence we have is what will benefit, but finding the eye of the storm to have the poise to discern what's best is tricky

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1071

Stress can be good or bad depending on your perspective. Losing a job can make a person depressed or feel like a failure or the situation can be looked at positively like seeing all of the opportunities and possibilities and maybe liking your new job better than your old one :)

I used to default to depression which made my circumstances control me instead of the other way around. I didn't realize being positive and happy is a daily choice. I thought it was too much effort. But, really I found out that reacting, by way of depression, was a lot more work. It's easier to smile, get out of bed and stand up straight and go out, even for a cup of coffee and to be around people. I always felt better when I got back. I found the issue is more about your comfort zone of reacting to situations. If depression is your way of handling things, then it feels odd, stupid and uncomfortable to smile, get out and be happy despite your feelings. But, choosing happiness ends up feeling so much better in the long run and becomes so much easier if you try it even if you have to force yourself. Before you know it, you've replaced your old negative habit, with a new positive (default) habit and you look back and wonder why you didn't do it sooner :) Try this with people as well as circumstances. Because, I used to give my power away to other people. If they were in a bad mood or said something nasty to me, I would allow it to get me down. It's like someone throwing a football at you. Who said you have to catch it? Just drop the ball. Let the negative people or comments bounce off your like an arrow bouncing off a shield. Who says you have to pick up the arrow and stab yourself with it. So, if someone is mean, I realize something must have happened to them. And, I think to myself, "Sorry you're in a bad mood, but I'm going to remain happy." I used to feel guilty if it was a family member, but why? They can be allowed to have their bad mood, just as much as I'm allowed not to go down the tubes with them and remain happy. I still have to remind myself to focus on the one good thing that happened in the day rather than focus on many negative things that have happened. Being happy despite people and circumstances is an option.

Shari

for 12 år siden 0 +0 / -0 12049

Members,

Depression is clearly associated with negative stressful life events and problems in living. Stressful life events have been found to be associated with problems with general health and well-being and research has shown that people report an increased number of stressful life event in the weeks leading up to a depressive episode.

Any change in a person’s environment, even a positive change, can result in the experience of stress.

A major behavioural change or embracing a new lifestyle, the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, or the end of a relationship is often considered to be a significant stressful event. But even positive changes such as marriage, promotion at work, birth of a child, going away to school, or moving to a new home can also cause stress.

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