Right now I have to get over this cold, so I can make some social choices shortly.
As I awoke this morning, I looked at some peeling paint above me, and realized the difference between dealing with home issues and mom's health always left me dealing with mom's health. Davit's comment about opportunities relates to my situation of losing my social circle, because of caregiving issues, with my succumbing to worry, uneasiness.
I have to agree with everything Ashley said. I think you may be like I was, A social person locked in a recluse body only because of lack of opportunity to get out of it. Well that and the fear of failure. Amazing how nearly dying can take away that fear. I'm not saying you should nearly die to achieve this. I do think mentally though you have been close. Socializing has it's ups and downs but it is worth it. Probably a quarter of the people you meet are going to be the same way. Some one has to break the ice. Why not you.
Socializing is so important. Talking to people you like and being around people you are friendly with will help combat stress, provide enjoyment, improve confidence and even cognitive abilities.
You actually come across as quite a socially minded person Hugs. I have no doubt that if you put yourself out there more and actively tried to seek out new relationships you would benefit tremendously.
So the questions is how can you put yourself out there more? What's a goal you can set for yourself for next week around this?
As I get over my bout of allergies or summer cold, I realized how valuable it could be to socialize. It might take my ferrari mind with chevy brakes, and connect me with calmness of others, and become a productive citizen, rather than a recluse.
I felt so calm speaking to a woman from a support group recently, and I slept so soundly, and felt I actually "changed", letting go of some things. I was able to discard some things from work, and probably the memories of those things.
This hasn't happened for years, and I wish I could duplicate this. I imagine by not socializing, I'm protecting my fear of intimacy
