what now,
in my opinion, anger is just an excuse. what is really there is hurt than you just cant deal with. its easier to be angry than admit something hurts. hurt makes you weak. anger empowers you...in a twisted sense. if you are hurt its like you feel like you have lost control and with anger you think you are in control but you really arent. we forget anger is a total loss of control but when you are in "it" it is hard to see. that is my opinion. he is just really hurting. when i am really hurting i push everyone away. i just cant deal with people. even on this site, i wont post or respond when i am hurting. i work very hard to not let anger get the best of me. oh i used to tho. i used to live angry. i hated everyone and everything and i blamed everyone and everything. now i mostly turn that inwards but i am working on that. i hope some of this helps. still, it is no excuse. he cant take things out on you and your son. its not right. i think that is why i internalize things so i dont take them out on the people in my life. its not fair. ya know?
Well, he says that he loves and misses his family, but he is very angry. I talked with him yesterday and I told him that we needed to take things very slow. He said he thought that was right. But, I also figured out from his conversation that he wasn't taking meds. I told him that I had read that depression is anger turned inwards and he said he had just read that too so that was good that at least he is reading about it. My husband is very stubborn. That is a fact just with normal things so something like this is very hard. Our son called him for the first time since May and he just couldn't hold in his displeasure with his dad and how he has let us just dangle and how we -my son and I-have tried to help. What we always get is that he is angry. It is a feeling that he has inside. I always know when I post you are there. You have been such a good "buddy". Thanks. :)
can you elaborate a little more? im not sure how to repsond. can you share some more so i can give some insight as to how i might react? thanks...take care. hugs
