Snuggles: I can totally identify with what you are saying! God, I have been jealous my entire life and have always kept my guys on a pretty short lease in that department. Like you, if I see my guy talking to a woman, or even looking at someone else I get hurt. Yes, I'll agree that some of it has to do with lack of self confidence and/or the fear of losing my guy to someone else, but I don't think all of it comes from that. Let's face it - we grow up in a society where alot of a woman's value (at least from the male perspective) is based upon her looks. Many men also seem to go through life with the "I can look as long as I don't touch" attitude, which makes us feel like we are never enough to keep them interested. I don't think most of us would be jealous if we knew in our hearts that our men were entirely committed to us. In other words, if I could know beyond the shadow of a doubt that my man loved me with all his heart and that no other woman (no matter how pretty) could compare with me in his eyes then I don't think I would get hurt just because he notices a pretty girl now and then. I for one, resent how society just expects us to tolerate the strip joints, porn mags and/or other things that men do because supposedly that's just the way men are. My father never treated my mother that way, and I refuse to lower my standards just because 90% of the guys out there are like that. Just my opinion.
