Kind of like when adults write in their journals to help pinpoint triggers. By comparing notes with the day care provider you might come across some similar points.
Thanks greg_c. I really needed some encouragement.
I spoke to my husband about the way I was feeling and he was very good. He even told me to go and write a thought record. When I told I had started, he helped me to think of more reasons why this is not true and an alternative thought as well.
Evidence this thought is not true: She's two and probably going through a phase; She doesn't live in an abusive environment; We love her lots.
Alternative thought: She's going through the terrible two's. Her brother had a similar phase when he was four and he grew out of it. Even though she is worse, she will grow out of it, too.
Greg is right! Children go through many stages and they may be trying to test you. Work together with your day care provider and be consistent in discipline, this way all the rules are the same.
Keep up the journal and ask your day care provider to do the same. Are there any similarities or certain things that may be setting your daughter on this course?
This isn't necessarily the sign of a problem. Kids go through stages, they change, they aren't always what we may want. It all OK. What should you do about your daughter? Love her.
I need some help challenging a rather large negative thought. When I went to pick up my daughter at her babysitters, I learned that she had three timeouts and wouldn't listen to her sitter today. She was pushing and hurting the smaller kids. I started to cry on the way home and all I could think was that it was my fault. It's my fault that my daughter is a bully.
I started a thought record as soon as I got home. I have now trouble with the ABCD but the EF are new to me this week. I had no trouble with the evidence supporting the thought: She hurts the kids at the sitter's house. She doesnt listen to her sitter. She even hits me sometimes. The evidence that it is not true is not coming very easy however. All I have is that I didn't teach her this behaviour. I also can't think of alternative thoughts.
