Megan it was not aimed at you so don't take it personally. And secondly I would never make that sort of comment about anyones mother , but it is a fact that the world is too busy of a place for the majority of people to give their children the skills they need. If they did there would be no need for therapy. Anger will get you through life and it will get you through a lot of situations, but it will not cure you, nor will relaxation techniques. I bloody well know this from experience. Only changing thought patterns will do this. And I will tell you right now it is hard to do. so hard that many throw away the little they gain to keep their old not working thought patterns. They would rather live in there shell and think they are sick. You said you would not give up but I'm betting you are ready to right now. I'm betting you are thinking this is just another stupid gimmic that doesn't work like all the rest.
So misinterpret what I say and get mad at me. But you are the one who has to give up because I won't. I know this works. Do the program and ignore what I post if you want to, but keep in mind I have a very good therapist and every thing I say is based on fact and I've been doing this a long time. A very long time.
Be damn glad you have parents, I don't and when I did they taught me nothing. I wasn't even wanted. I had to face my fears alone and had to learn to face them alone because there was no one to hold my hand when I really needed it. And I made a lot of mistakes. A lot of children grew up this way in my generation.
My brother gets by with anger, I can't be around him. His way of treating his anxiety is to get mad and give it to everyone else. It works very well for him and he thinks he is normal and I'm crazy. He can't see though that his anger drives people away. There is a big difference between facing fears and fighting them.
Take what you want from this, it is not aimed at you. It is only facts. The whole program is just information, as are these forums.
My therapist says she would be disappointed if I could not get angry, but even more if I used that anger on some one
else. It has it's place as do all the emotions.
Davit.
Ps go back to that post and tell me whose name is at the top. We are all different, not everything is relevant. The only thing that is is the CBT techniques that change thought patterns.
But I see what you were trying to say.
