Why, why and why does nobody out there tell new moms that these feelings are so very normal, especially to brand new moms. Why do they always paint these picture perfect new moms in these educational books? It is just not the truth. I was a student in Amsterdam when I met my husband. I moved to the USA for him and after a year I was a 29 year old mom with twin girls. Now, it is not about the twins that made it hard, it is being a new mom which is hard!!!! But it is not done....right? It is just not done to tell anybody that you are feeling depressed, because you are supposed to be glorious happy with your brand new beautiful baby. And you are.....no doubt, but than there are sooooooo many new emotions and responsibilities and not many social contacts remained, since you are so busy with the little ones and sometimes old friends without kids may not want to hear you all the time, they have other interest. Not to mention the sleep depreviation, which can make you feel worn down and depressed. Yes, talk to you doctor, but realize that many, many new moms have those feelings. Go through them, face them, deal with them and just let them happen. Like I said, my kids are 9 now....but my depression back than was so severe that I never had another child and still remember the pain of it. If only they would prepare young women that these emotions will occur.......enjoy your babies, go with the flow, some days down and irritable, some days up and cheery. Do not worry about taking it out on your husband, that will only add quilt, of which you have enough already I am sure. Remember.............this phase will pass before you know it, soon you be driving your little ones off to school and you go back to work and you will be longing back to this time with your baby. Keep writing your posts here, a lot of people are here to support you.
