I'm not batty, but I think I know exactly how you feel, but somewhat reversed. I am the depressed one in my relationship, and when I have what we call "episodes" my hunny drinks to dilute the pain I cause him. When he drinks he loses the bearing to tolerate and help me through my issues, then we wind up fighting and on rare occasions it boils down to abusive situations. We're both abusive people, he physically and me mentally and psychologically (due to my depression and anxiety). It's been very tough for us as we had a major dispute about a month ago and the sh*t really hit the fan. He is facing battery charges now, and I'm facing being a single mom with major depressive issues. I know his battery is wrong, but I can't judge him for it because of the amount of emotional and psychological pain I cause him on a daily basis. He has since quit drinking entirely, and I am (through this site and a professional) seeking help to bring my abuse on him to an end.
