Sweetsurrender,
Ther are a lot of people on this board that are like Oedipus - the wounded hero in Greek mythology who could help everyone but himself.
What Kelly said is very true, about breakups. It can be very traumatic.
I hate to sound like a cliche, but life DOES go on, painful as it is.
Let me put it in perspctive for you: my parents used to beat the crap out of me every day. Paint stirrers, electrical cords, wire hangars, leather belts. Did your love do that? No? what the hell was so great about him if he dumped YOU? Listen, you're a helluva better than that. Listen to me: You are better than that and that jagoff doen't deserve you.