Thanks Kelly...I appreciate the post and the prayers. I have asked him to go with me to therapy and he declined stating that he didn't need therapy...that he just needs to stop drinking. This is the confusing part for me...last night, we went to dinner with a friend...and yes, he asks me if I minded if he had a drink. Annoyed, I said," do what you want." Of course one led to three...I was so angry and hurt by this. He passed out on the couch when we got home and I left him there and went to bed. I know it is wrong to think that he should stop drinking for me...that if he loved me he would stop, but at times that is how I feel.
Now what to do...Part of me wants to pack things up and leave, yet another part wants to stay and try to work on this. I don't know...it is the first time he drank since telling me he had to stop(or so I thought until I found an open 3/4 empty bottle of wine hidden in the china closet. He just found out that his aunt has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer...I know he is upset, but how much slack should be given here? This is the first time I am going through a "recovering" alcoholic's process and I don't know how I should react to this...Sometimes I wish I could just stay in my room and cry, but unfortunately the meds I am on keep me from this. I haven't been able to cry in 3 months...
Sorry for the novella, I just am so confused and hurt (again) right now...I have to leave for work in 40 minutes and I am having trouble getting together to go. Boy, does this post read to me as "whine, whine whine" I hate this.
How does someone dealing with this stop feeling hurt when the drinking starts again? I know it has nothing to do with me, but I am the one who feels the deceit, pain, anger and sadness.
I wonder if it really is all worth it or worth anything at all...