I understand that "get over it" lecture. It only makes you feel worse. But, to the credit of those you know, it's very difficult to understand these feelings unless you have them. The waves of inexplicable sadness are something I experience as well. Even though everything is essentially fine, the feeling is still there. I'm with you. Don't feel alone; there are those who know what you are going through. I do... don't give up!
Sweetsurrender,
How are you doing?
Members,
For those of you who may be looking for additional help, please see the government sites below:
For the US: [url=http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/]National Mental Health Information Center[/url]
For Canada: [url=http://www.mentalhealthcanada.com/main.asp?lang=e]Mental Health Canada[/url]
Hope this helps you find the ressources you need.
Danielle
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The DC Support Team
I get waves of that too. I start to cry uncontrollably and I can't stop. Sometimes it's so bad I have to leave my office and hide. For hours at a time and funny thing is I don't feel any better once it's finally over. I'd go for therapy but it's not covered by my insurance and I just cannot come up with the money to pay it myself.
Danielle and Jluv thank you so much for your response. I do go to talk therapy but its usually only once a month for about 45 minutes. I wish I had someone to talk to just whenever I needed it - but I know thats hard to do. Lately it seems that my emotions run from high to low and everywhere in between. I am coming to terms I think with the situation that got me here in the first place. It still hurts, I still love him, but I realize now that that part of my life is over. Not because I want it to be but because it has to be. I do wish I could find my happiness again. I try and there are moments in time when I feel that there is a future with smiles and laughter in it but then the other stuff sets in and like I said the giant waves come back to haunt me. I am learning to know when they are coming and to try to put on a life vest before it hits too hard but there are times when it hit way off guard. I wonder if these feelings will ever go away- if I will ever just be happy again and I worry when the next wave will come. Hugs to you all- cj
Sweetsurrender,
I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. I know how frustrating it is when others don't get how miserable you are feeling and how you can't "just get over it". It sounds like you are a sensitive person which is a good thing. It sucks to wear different masks to get by in the world. Many people don't understand depression and are very uncomfortable relating to people who are depressed. I think mainly because they don't know how to "cheer you up". I think they have good intentions but they should definitely be more respectful of you by listening and being supportive. Hang in there, you are not alone! Please say hi sometime and let me know how you are doing!
:)jluv
Sweet Surrender,
Never hold back on your feelings when you post. As for their replies, I can only say you should take what you can use and leave the rest.
I know you feel trapped by your overwhelming emotions but that's why you're here right? to lift the lid so to speak?
Have you ever considered seeking out individual therapy. Maybe having face time with a professional would give you that extra support you need?
In the meantime, keep working through the program. Take your time and hang in there. Were all here for you.
Danielle
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The Depression Support Team
come crashing over me at the strangest times and from out of nowhere. I don't understand them and they wear me out. I can be perfectly happy or at least not unhappy when it happens. Its usually little things that set it off. The other day it was seeing snow fall on a music video. I felt like I could not breath and like my whole world was crashing down around me. I don't understand this and wish it would just all go away. I still feel the same way I did in my other post- to the world I am doing fine but thats because I don't let them know how much my world seems lost and alone. Mostly because they won't understand, I will just get the same ol " well you don't need to think that way , just get over it" lecture again and again. I hate these feelings, I hate that I can't seem to find my way out, I hate feeling trapped in this saddness.
