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Hello Suze! thank you for your note and for asking how things are. I have had a good couple of days and am about to go to the country for the week, which always makes me happier (I live in a big city and hate it). I understand your frustration with the notion that university somehow represents the 'best' years of your life, and it certainly didn't feel that way for me at the time. However, looking back now from the perspective of someone having to earn a living and surrounded by people doing the same, I can see why one says that. When you have to work, you have infinitely less time to sit around talking with friends, read just for pleasure and dabble with things out of curiosity. I hope that the depression you suffer doesn't prevent you from enjoying the advantages that one still has at that stage in life. I do think it important not to allow yourself to think that decisions you make now will determine how the rest of your life will unfold. True, I will probably not become a neurosurgeon or astronaut now, but that does not mean that I cannot change my life after having lived a certain way for ten years. The worst thing is to feel yourself trapped, in any way - like a scorpion, you will just keep stinging yourself. It may turn out that you make the wrong choices now - there is no way to know until you reach 'then' - but better that than not making any choices at all! I hope that things have improved for you, too, and that you have found the ability to get some work done. That was surely one of the features of these past couple of good days for me - I actually accomplished many things, both relating to my work and my personal projects, for the first time, it seemed, in weeks. I hope that your next days are better!
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Thanks, Reka. It's nice to hear that someone else struggled at university. As much as I've liked my experience here, sometimes I get really tired of hearing how these are supposed to be "the best years of your life." Thanks for your thoughts. I like the idea that we can accomplish whatever we put our minds to - and change our minds when we decide to. I often feel that decisions I make will define my life, but in reality I can adjust and make changes. I had kind of a bad day today. I had a rushed, unsatisfying dinner with my parents and then just spent the rest of the night alone. I was going to do homework, but I wasn't feeling motivated so I didn't get that much done. This is one of the most frustrating things about depression for me. It must have been terrible to lose two central figures in your life, Reka. My heart goes out to you. How are you doing?
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Hello Suze, I sympathise with your anxieties, as I find myself in much the same position, even though I left university many years ago. I think it is normal to worry about these things and sometimes even be depressed by them. I remember very well how dark many of those months and years at university were (I ended up doing three university degrees, so I had many, many years of university!). However, I just picked myself up and did something, which might have worked out in the end, even though I was increasingly frustrated, until last year, when my mother died under my care and my husband announced the end of our marriage one month later. One of the many effects of these events has been to bring me back to a position which I lived through once as an undergraduate: what am I going to do with myself, will I be alone for the rest of my life, what is the meaning or point of my life? The problem for me, though, is that I am no longer a bright 22-year-old! I don't know if it is relevant for you, but I still honestly believe that we can do whatever we want, if we want it enough, and that includes changing our minds! I hope that you can find a way for yourself that will give you a sense of having accomplished something. Sometimes, that is enough.
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Hi Brendaboo, I've been pretty busy lately so I haven't been online much. I've had a good couple of days though. How have you been? Suze
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hi suze, i hope you are having a better day today. sorry i didn't post since the last time you did. if you are online sometime click the launch button and maybe we could chat about things. it might be worth a try and get some perspective as to why we feel as we do. sometimes strangers can be a lot of help cause we don't judge one another. we are all in the same boat here inso. post if you can, would like to hear from you. brenda
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Hey Brenda, Thanks for reaching out to me. I would like very much to continue talking and doing what we can support each other. I am a college student who has gone through a couple of bouts of depression already in my life. My past experiences don't make this current struggle much easier, though. I'm going to be graduating soon, so I think that some of my depression stems from my questions about what I want to do after college, but I think my fears run even deeper than this. I think a lot about my spiritual beliefs, who I am, what I have to offer to the world. I worry about getting married one day and finding myself in an unsatisfying relationship - or never getting married and living alone. I trust that my depression will subside as I start to make some decisions and do some reflection, but sometimes I think that I'll always struggle some with anxiety and depression. I hope you had a good day today. If I can figure out the buddy chat system it might be nice to chat some time. Take care, Suze
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HI SUZE, NICE TO MEET YOU THROUGH THIS SITE. I HOPE WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER A LITTLE. I ALSO HAVE DEPRESSION BUT NOT TO THE SEVERS EXTENT THAT SOME GO THROUGH. I WOULD LIKE SOME ONE JUST TO HELP ME OUT WITH SOME OF MY BAD DAYS AND MAYBE THAT COULD BE YOU. HAVE A LOT ON MY PLATE RIGHT NOW AND HAVING A HARD TIME JUST GETTING THROUGH IT. DON'T KNOW FOR SURE HOW THE BUDDY TALK WORKS BUT MAYBE WE COULD GIVE IT A TRY SOMETIME! HOPE YOU ARE HAVING A BETTER DAY TODAY. MY DAUGHTER WORKS IN THE NURSING FIELD SO SHE IS A BIG HELP WHEN I CAN GET A HOLD OF HER. I DON'T LIKE TO BOTHER HER TO MUCH AND DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT HER OWN MOTHER CAN'T MANAGE HER OWN PROBLEMS. KIND OF MAKES ME BURDEN FOR HER IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. PLEASE POST OFTEN AND KEEP IN TOUCH. WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU SO I KNOW I AM NOT ALONE IN FEELING THIS WAY, BRENDABOO
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Hi Brendaboo, Thanks for your kind response. It is really helpful to know that other people feel similar. I often feel as if everyone around me is really happy and I don't want to bring them down with problems that I can't even really explain. A lot of times I don't even know why I'm unhappy; I can sometimes identify a trigger, but not always. It sounds as if you're in a really difficult situation. It must be terribly lonely to not be able to talk to your husband about your depression. I'm really glad that your daughter is understanding. I'm very grateful for the few people in my life who are willing to listen and help me through the low moments. Know that I'm thinking about you. Suze
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Brendaboo, If you feel you've doing worse since you came off your medication, have a chat with your doctor. Perhaps it wasn't the right time. Also be sure to keep working through the program one step at a time. Stay strong and keep close. Danielle ___________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team
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HI SUZE, I HAVE A LOT OF THE SAME SYMPTOMS THAT YOU HAVE. MY HUSBAND GIVES ME NO SUPPORT WHEN I TRY TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT DEPRESSION, JUST PRETTY MUCH THAT I AM FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF!! I HAVE TALKED TO MY DAUGHTER AT LENGTH ABOUT IT AND SHE IS A BIG HELP FOR ME. SHE UNDERSTANDS MY LIFE AND ALL OF THE COMPLICATIONS I HAVE IN IT. I WAS ON ZOLOFT FOR SOME TIME AND MY DOCTOR DIDN'T THINK I NEEDED IT ANYMORE. I WAS REALLY DOING GOOD AND WAS STARTING TO COPE WITH MY DEPRESSION UNTIL SHE TOOK ME OFF OF IT. I CRY A LOT OF TIMES ALSO BUT TRY TO DO IT IN PRIVATE SO NO ONE SEES ME. THEY THINK I AM JUST UNABLE TO HANDLE THE DAILY STRESS OF LIFE. MY DAUGHTER IS MENTALLY HANDICAPPED AND NEEDS TOTAL CARE FOR ALL HER THINGS. TAKES A LOT OUT OF ME EVERY DAY. SHE IS IN HER 30'S AND NOT JUST A CHILD BUT FUNCTIONS AT A 3 YEAR OLD LEVEL. THAT IS JUST ONE OF THE MANY PROBLEMS THAT KEEP ME SO DEPRESSED. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHAT, PLEASE POST AND MAYBE BE CAN HELP EACH OTHER OUT.

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