Hi Tgirl,
Fellow members will be by soon, but I just wanted to say that you had a brilliant suggestion - write your thoughts down!
Sometimes even just coming here on the site and sharing your thoughts as you have can be beneficial.
Whether you simply write your thoughts down, or prepare a letter for your mom specifically, it is up to you.
Maybe even try listing the pros and cons of confronting her. Again, you don't have to actually do anything with these written thoughts if you do not feel ready.
Remember that you are important and you have to do what is right for you and for your son.
Keep us posted,
Casey
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The Depression Center Support Team