Thank you Patrick.. and congratulations to you as well on your excellent success to become
smoke free.
I've been on a constant search for home care and the problem with that is it costs money.. as
does meals on wheels. We are on a very fixed (low) income and nothing here comes without
a cost including house cleaning, shopping assistance etc. I've looked into all of that. But thank
you for the suggestion.
We did receive a gift from an organization - a one time gift - to send my husband to a chronic
care hospital for 2 weeks back in January. It took about 6 days for me to decompress and then
I began to feel better for the next 8 days emotionally, mentally and physically. Whenever b'days
or anniversaries, or holidays roll around I always ask for cash in lieu of gifts so that I can save
up to send him there again. It's not a very nice place as most people there are very very old (hubby
is only 52) and they are dying. Very depressing to say the least.
I have done what you did suggest about asking for more help from family and friends and at the
beginning they were 'there' but they dwindled away.
I so appreciate all of your advice and suggestions.. I guess Patrick that's part of the depression..
and feeling so alone.
I have made a lot of changes while hubby was away .. I learned a lot of lessons ..i.e. to take care
of me, my down time and so on. In theory it works great - in reality not so terrific. I'm just in such
a low period of my life right now that I'm really just wanting to be numb as to not feel at all.
Thanks again Patrick.. you seem like a sweet and caring person.
Sarah