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for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 82

Mom of 3

What are you talking about "normal poeple" you are a normal person Don't ever think your not! I did counseling for quite some time and my wife joined me ,until our counseler moved away.i don't think it was ever a waste of time! I even enjoyed it!its great to have somone trained in that to talk to.I hope things improve for you.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hello again,

Thank you all for your responses. I am trying to hang in there. I did talk to him about how hard I'm working on this and he says I've been this way for 6 years. I told him that I felt that was an exaggeration, not that I haven't had depressive episodes, but given the amount of stress I had thought that I had been handling well. I did shut down and understand he is upset by that. But I believe that he blames me for more than I am responsible for. Even "normal" people would have found my stressors hard to deal with. I explained how I have felt and that I need support and encouragement. He told me I should get some "real help" instead of writing on here. I told him it was good to hear from others who have the same issues. I'm considering seeing a psychologist now, but I really don't know how helpful it's going to be. I've tried counseling before and ended up feeling that it was a waste of time.

Sheba, I understand what you're saying and maybe he is afraid of my condition. He does seem less irritated with me and is a little more supportive, but I still think he blames me for being like this. I know he blames me for shutting down. I can't say that I blame him, I blame me too.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 82

Hang in there Mom of 3

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 8760

Mom of 3,

Sorry to hear you're having a bad day. Have you asked your husband what that means?

Is he aware you're taking some great steps to better managing your depression & anxiety.

I know you must anxious to get a handle on all of this but the truth of the matter is it takes time and baby steps.

Keep working through the program and don't forget about our sister site, the panic center. There is additional help for you there as well.

Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 185

Hi! Often when people are afraid and don't know how to react tend to say things like: it's not you. But in fact they want to say: I'm afraid, I don't know how to react when you are not feeling well.

Try to talk with him to explain that you are ill but you are the same and that you need his help to get better.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi all,

I am very down today. I am wondering if I will ever be able to get a handle on this depression thing. My husband is still complaining that I'm "not myself". I keep wondering what that means exactly. This thing is part of me too. I just think he wants me to be what he wants. I do want to be better than this which is why I'm here, but I want to really be me and not anyone else's version of me. That's no different than I am right now.

I've been having an increase in panic attacks and yesterday I had a bad one at work. The shaking all over kind. I can't remember ever having one that bad at work. Usually work makes me dwell on other things and panic doesn't set in. It was really awful.

Mom of 3

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

Your secret is safe. Take your time with your sessions, sometimes you have to read them a few times, especially if you're new to this. I have also Googled certain issues to see what I could find and have found all types of articles with helpful information. Go slow, there's alot out there. I base my acceptance of what I read on whether the suggestions offer viable solutions.

Mom of 3

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 82

You sound just like me with your anger,I just hope you don't look like me Im having a hard time with the session not big on reading,it'll take me time.And truthfully I am a caring guy but lets keep that between you an me ,lol ,don't want to ruin the image.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

DJ,

Anger is a diffiucult issue. I'm not sure what your issues are but I hold my anger in and when it comes out (at break point) it's never good. It also never comes out right. I'm trying to work on expressing my feelings at the time in a loving way and not in anger. I messed up again today. I wished I had just bit my tongue and gone on, but my insecurity set in and I pounced. This is against what I had planned and against what I knew I should do.

Needless to say it didn't go well. I did apologize and he accepted, but it still feels like a set back and scares me.

Are you doing the sessions here? I am and feel they're helpful. Maybe do some and when you're comfortable, share your efforts/revelations with your wife. It may help her to understand where you are and that you recognize and own your problem.

You seem like a real caring guy, even if you are some burly biker dude on the outside.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 82

Mom of 3 ,I know where your coming from,just its my anger that hurts my family and it is frustrating !your not alone.

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