Wow, it really sounds like you have a lot on your plate! I am no relationship expert and as such do not really have advice for you except to take it on day at a time. With my relationship and my anxiety and depression issue, this philosphy is what has helped me the most. Welcome to the forums and please keep us posted.
Hi Lostinct,
You have received some excellent advice from members here.
I agree with Daily Llama that seeing a counsellor may be very helpful for you and your boyfriend if he is up for it. There are many new changes happening in your life right now which may make you feel overwhelmed.
Keep us posted!
Faryal, Health Educator
Hi, Lost. You aren't "lost" at all. You got all these new beginnings - apartment and job. Why not see a counsellor for a few sessions to get yourself through this rough spot... just for the next couple of months until you see which way the wind is blowing?? Since your fiance has been so considerate so far why not ask him to set up a dual appointment with a couples counsellor so you can both clear the air about where you're both going in this relationship??
Hi and welcome! It is scary to move out but you should think that is your den. Your place where you can do all you want to do. (For me it is like this). When I go home I put on some music and go for a shower and then try to cook something or just invent the strangest things and combinations. No one can tell me that doesn't like the food or the way I'm dressed etc.
As for the new job it can be interesting and challenging so give it a try. You don't have to be the best but only to feel ok with your progresses.
Welcome to the support group! I am sorry to hear about your situation. There were some good things in your post - new apartment, new job, a new beginning. It may not be what you had been planning, but it may be a blessing. Like Breanne said, it all may be for the best. Keep us posted on how you're doing.
Welcome to our wonderful support community. I am sorry to hear about all of the recent changes that have gone on in your life, but, perhaps it's for the best (even if it doesn't seem like that right now, which I'm sure it doesn't). Try and look at your situation in a positive light. Think of it as a brand new beginning. You have a great new apartment, and a new job to look forward to. If you go into your job with a positive and optimistic attitude, it will make your experience so much better.
Please take the time to read through the program, and to explore the tools and resources that are available to you through this site. Stay close, and keep us posted on how you are doing.
I am not the best with relationship issues. So I will not venture there.
I do want to welcome you to our little community. If you spent 6 months working your way out of a depression you are a strong person and have a whole lot of other merits we will all be happy to discover. One part of depression is thinking negatively and not giving yourself the credit you deserve.
the CBt program here is meant to help us change these bad thinking habits we picked up.
I don't know where to begin. I was supposed to be getting married in a weeks time, but the wedding got cancelled, instead I am moving out this Friday (neither my choice). Now my ex-fiance who is still my boyfriend has been fantastic, the absolute best, he just is not sure if this is what he wants from his life. So now I move out on Friday and start a new job next week (I used to work for him). He has decorated my new apartment and done everything within his power to make this easy for me. We are still going to date and take things slowly and see where they go, but I feel like a wreck. I have been taking zoloft since January and was finally getting myself back together, but now the time to move is here and then starting the new job, I feel terrible. I am emetophobic (fear of vomitting) and also have had panic attacks in the past. I have not had them in years but of course recently to add insult to injury they have come back with a vengence. I take Zoloft and see a counsellor. I just want my life back. We are both in are 30s. I feel so lonely and scared. What if I move out and he doesn't want to date me, what if I mess up my new job, what if I have panic attacks? I really got depressed earlier this year and it took me quite some way to claw myself up to functioning fully again and I am terrified I am going to slide back into that again. Everyone says how strong I am. I don't feel strong. I feel lost and scared and wish there was someone to make all my decisions for me as my brain feels in a fog.
Anyway I just wanted to get all this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
