dear diva - you are not a whiner or a downer! and everytime you think it or say it you are doing yourself a disservice! i hate to break it do you - life is not fair! it never was and it never will be. josie, is right, write a letter praising yourself, if you don't do it who will? things don't always work out like we plan. life has a way of rearing it's really strange head sometimes! i know more and more companies want team players, those who not only do their job, but are friendly and social with each other. me, i was never a team player and maybe you aren't either, you don't have to be. the point is you have to keep going on, get back on the horse that threw you. maybe you're not "popular" because you are so stressed out and it shows and people don't know how to help you so they withdraw. deal with your anxiety, and sleep, sleep, sleep if you can. everything seems a little bit better and you're thinking is always clearer after a good sleep - hang in there, diva