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for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 910

Thanks for the update! I am sorry to hear you are having trouble with your medication. It is good that you are seeing your Pdoc. Let us know how it goes! Sorry for the short replies. Just tired.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 72

Hi:

I am just realizing all that typing I do on this site and all the

writing is due to my mania. I think the meds are causing

havoc on my body system. I see pdoc on Thurs, and I

be discussing this with him. He has been adjusting my

meds since Feb, and I have had rapid cycling ever since,

and lost my appetite.

Members, I was not myself for 4 days straight, and I wasn't

the usually me. This is frightening and I think what happened

at agency triggered everything. I came back on Friday, and

I tried to explain to my brother & sister what I have been

going thru all these years. They are in DENIAL, they are

fine, not need anyone. However I am hoping they will not

take anything I say personal, b/c I know I have been very

irritable and angry.

I am thought of & missed at work, that makes mel feel

appreciated. Take Care Have a good wknd

For now, I don't need the poa, but thanx Goofy for

the suggestion. I am hoping I can get meds under

control and not have mania, as it gets me in too much

trouble. School thinks it is the fibro, and I hope to

keep it that way.

Windsy

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11226

Windsy,

Goofy offered you some great advice. You seem frustrated and angry about this issue and I think addressing it how Goofy suggested may help.

Have you talked to your family about their treatment of you and their perception of depression? If not, how do you think you could approach them on this issue? What would you say?

Members, have you had trouble with friends or family members not understanding your depression? Please share your experiences.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1044

Windsy, I don't live your life so it is hard to know just where you need to draw the line and set boundaries with your family and/or do what I had to do and concede that I was no longer taking care of myself and handling my responsibilities. I set up a POA for a period of time and my mother, then my son now are just that. I am able to take care of bills and decisions that need to be made, though I still consult with him if it's a major issue. I've assessed that I still need that intervention and my therapist and psychiatrist agree. That's all on the Power of Attorney - that gives them the right, when I am not capable of making decisions for myself, to step in and do that.

If it's a boundary issue, I'm not the best at doing that, however I did find the section on relationships very helpful. I did find it necessary to do that exercise a couple of different times focusing on one relationship, then another as the issues are different and I did won't to focus on a particular relationship. My therapist told me: Setting boundaries is not being selfish. I agree, but setting boundaries in relationships after many years is very difficult. It is also very hard. It is not a threat or an ultimatum. You seem very intelligent, well-read and have a great deal of insight into issues you need to work on; sounds like you've got a good therapist that fits you. He may be able to help you set boundaries and/or discuss the power of attorney.

I realize not everyone who posts here, lives in the US and I know laws vary. So before making any decisions find out what the laws are and POA may even be called something different.

I hope this helps, I'm thinking about you, admiring your insight and self-imposed treatment regimen.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 910

Hello windsy,

I am in a bad place at the moment and find myself with nothing much to say. But I did want to drop in and say >i read your post and felt very touched by it. I heard you and support you.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 72

Hi There:

I went d/t yesterday and I had 3 phone calls from the family. I

now have to tell them where I go every day, and I don't think

that is fair. They also say that I have NO rights to privacy

on my own life and it is an open book, which I do not agree with.

I sent an email "I am going d/t, is that okay, what are you doing?

as privacy is a 2 way street.

My sister didn't like that I raised my voice, I have bipolar,

and don't know what is happening to my body. She called

my brother and he ragefully gave me the riot act. B/C I

am unstable in their eyes, I have to check in. This is so

humiliating, I feel like a dog with a bracelet on her ankle

and a prisoner.

I just wish that someone can explain to them, that having

depression is not to be ashamed of. When my student's

were asking about me, she lied. She said I am on heavy

drugs, can't drive, and she is taking care of me, b/c I am an

invalid. Truth is I went to her daughter's vb tourn on

the wknd....how dare she....she doesn't know what it

feels for me, or they don't care .

All she needed to say, the story I am sticking with is

"X overdid it and she needs a rest b/c of her fibro.

It was the truth. When I was terse with my sister, i

just read this card and i felt emotion. However, she

doesn't get it, that people do care about me, and

that I am loved unconditionally.

I now have to put on that "false face" everytime I see

them, b/c I am NOT allowed to express my feelings.

or that means I am sick again, and need looking after.

I am very strong, and despite their ignorance, I went d/t and

walked about 3km for the last 2 days. I also made my own

alternatives to indiv therapy, that I wished the agency eased

me in. I have my name on 4 waiting lists for counseling, which

will take 2-8 mths wait. Tomorrow I am going to our local

mental health office, and I have been to mood disorders.

I am so ANGRY that people don't do this for me, that I

have to fend for myself just like always. Also I don't know

why people use me as a victim to torment. That agency will

not admit that they could have done things differently. The

unfortunate part, it was a person's life they messed with.

UNACCEPTABLE!!!!!

I have my own recovery plan, I created in 3 days. It has all

the numbers I need, and names of websites that help people

get back to work, after a mental health crisis. I actually found

videos, on how others experienced going back to work. My

shrink/gp & work do NOT judge me, but my family has now

decided I need to be looked after.

I also explained why I need couseling ASAP according to

my situation. I sent it to my shrink, and he said good &

thorough work. My strength is my tenacity and I don't

quit, however it is very tiring. I am on another rollercoaster

but I have hope b/c I see my shrink next Thursday. I saw

him on the street yesterday, and I am so disconnected I

didn't realize it was him. I am in such a fog, and feel unreal.

My students(thru my sis

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